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Diversity & Sexuality: Talking About the Way We Talk About Victoria's Secret

2013 Victoria's Secret Fashion Show - Show

A couple of weeks ago, the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show aired in the United States. As usual, it was taped about a month before, and then there were several weeks of hyping and promos and press releases about every single detail of the event --- from how many Swarovski crystals they use to what the models' pre-show workout regimen is. As a fashion show, the VSFS doesn't really interest me; my lingerie tastes don't tend towards the padded/pushup/contour bras side of things. However, I am quite interested in how people talk about the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show.

Around this time of year, a lot of articles come out about the harm Victoria's Secret does, and in particular, how harmful they are to young women. As I near my 30th birthday (and simultaneously exit both the "young woman" category and Victoria's Secret's target demographic), these discussions are very intriguing to me. I feel like I'm far enough away from my VS years (teens + early 20s) to be able to look back with some objectivity, yet not so far away that everything takes on that rosy hue of idealized nostalgia.

Despite their popularity (or unpopularity, depending on which blogs you read), I only talk about Victoria's Secret a couple of times a year on TLA --- once around the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show and once or twice when they make the news for some other reason (like refusing to sell mastectomy bras). This year, I want to talk about some of the common criticisms directed towards the brand, particularly in regards to diversity and sexuality.

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Every year, the bodies of the Victoria's Secrets models make headlines, namely because the brand doesn't use any full bust or plus size models. That's definitely an issue as size diversity is an important kind of diversity, but it's not the only kind of diversity. Unfortunately, in many of the articles I read this year about the show, the only body image critiques made were about size/body shape. Beauty standards encompass much more than just the number on a dress tag. Regular readers of this blog know that we often use lingerie as a lens to discuss social issues, and I found myself doubly disappointed this year. One, because Victoria's Secret has no 'Angels' of color right now and two, because no major media outlets thought that was worth discussing.

While there were both Asian and black models featured in the fashion show (a record high number, in fact, which should be acknowledged), the team of Victoria's Secret Angels are the most visible and famous models for the brand. The models chosen for this marketing campaign also garner some of the most lucrative advertising contracts in the entire fashion industry (not to mention all that priceless exposure; VS practically launched Candice Swanepoel's career single-handedly). There's been a lot of much-needed conversation in recent seasons about the lack of models of color in ad campaigns... which is where fashion models make the big bucks and get the major recognition. It would have been nice to see this development touched on in the larger fashion and body image blogging communities.

I would also love if conversations on body image made more frequent notice of age. At 32, both Adriana Lima and Alessandra Ambrosio are the oldest Victoria's Secret Angels. Lindsay Ellingson is the next oldest at 29, while Doutzen Kroes and Lily Aldridge are the third oldest at 28. In addition, Heidi Klum modeled for the brand until she was 37, and Tyra Banks modeled for them until she was 32. Now I'm not calling 28, 29, 32, or 37 "old," but in an industry that recruits models as young as 14, 15, and 16 for the runway (or 18 in Victoria's Secret's case), it's nice to know that models my age are still around and popular. I hope that Adriana Lima, Alessandra Ambrosio, and the other women are Victoria's Secret models for years to come, as there is definite value in showing women in their 30s, 40s, and beyond as attractive and desirable.

To be perfectly honest,  it'd be wonderful if Victoria's Secret took this concept further and brought back some of their classic supermodels like Stephanie Seymour, Daniela Pestova, Helena Christensen (who's currently working and modeling for Triumph Lingerie), and Laetitia Casta. Being able to identify with a model goes beyond sharing the same dress or bra size, it can also involve being the same age or reaching the same stage in life (such as marriage or motherhood).

Finally, Carmen Carrera made a lot of headlines in the leadup to the taping of the show due to a petition that tried to get her on the runway. Unsurprisingly, Victoria's Secret had no comment on the petition (they rarely comment on anything the least bit controversial), but if we're talking diversity and representation and body image, then gender identity should absolutely be a part of that conversation. Lea T. and Ines Rau have appeared in several recent editorials and ad campaigns, and it's a really great thing to see models who are also trans* becoming more visible in the fashion industry. While I don't expect Victoria's Secret to hire Carmen Carrera anytime soon, I am glad that the beginnings of this conversation are happening right now, and I hope it keeps going.

I've mentioned it here before, but I would genuinely like to see conversation on diversity expand beyond size again. It's disconcerting to me that many major media outlets, bloggers, and other voices in the industry use the singular word "diversity," without any modifiers or caveats, to only refer to size. Doing so not only prioritizes size above all these other body image concerns, it also renders these other issues invisible... as though they're not even worthy of being mentioned.

If one is making the argument that an absence of diversity is harmful to young women, then it stands to reason that there are multiple ways of doing such harm. Any discussion on body image and beauty standards is lacking and flawed when it's tied to only a single aspect of beauty. While a conversation on size addresses one element of the diversity problem, that's not enough. Whether the subject of the discussion is Victoria's Secret or some other lingerie company, all aspects of diversity deserve attention and consideration.

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Very often, at least from my perspective, conversations about Victoria's Secret and sexuality drift off into the "deep end." Either you hate everything they're doing and believe they should be shut down immediately, or you hate women (or some other, equally hyperbolic nonsense). The conversation on sex and sexuality and lingerie and Victoria's Secret is, like a lot of other things, much more complex and subtle than all that. This year, Victoria's Secret made headlines for their "Bright Young Things" collection, which elicited several allegations of "sexualizing" young women, in particular, teenagers. However these conversations sometimes have the unfortunate side effect of tipping over into body snark and sexuality shaming, where women are not only ridiculed for having insufficiently feminine bodies but also for wanting to express their sexuality through their lingerie.

This article isn't about the "healthiness" or "unhealthiness" of Victoria's Secret's particular brand of sexuality (and I'm being very deliberate when I use the word "brand"). There are a number of issues with the way VS portrays women (submissive, passive), and I'd love to see a more active, self-aware, self-possessed version of sexuality in lingerie advertising... not just from Victoria's Secret but from almost every other lingerie brand in the industry. If nothing else, women's come-hither glances and parted lips have turned into a tired trope --- it's boring. There's more to sexuality than the formula of pretty girl + lingerie.

That said, I am incredibly uncomfortable with how a conversation on sexuality, at least in America, disregards the role of lingerie (or clothing in general, for that matter) as a way of feeling "sexy." There are a lot of memes and self-esteem posters insisting that sexuality (especially a "real" or "healthy" sexuality) all takes place on the inside, and I understand what those messages are trying to do. In a world where so much emphasis is placed on a woman's external appearance, these notices are trying to remind women, especially young women, that there's more to who they are than their appearance. That's a wonderful thing, and it shouldn't stop.

However, there's also nothing wrong with saying that people can express their sexuality (which, let's face it, is a big part of your identity) through dress, including lingerie and "sexy lingerie." While my personal interest in lingerie tends towards the fashion side of things, no one should get to tell anyone else that an expression of their sexuality is "healthy" or "unhealthy" because it involves push-up bras, garter belts, or knickers with words on the backside. Women can wear sexy, titillating, provocative, naughty, dirty, trashy, cheap, or even slutty lingerie and still have a "healthy sexuality." Women can buy this kind of lingerie for one partner, no partners, or many partners and still have a "healthy sexuality." One's underwear choices are not a shortcut for determining sexual health.

I'd much rather see a message reminding young women that exploring their sexuality is okay, and that self-respect shouldn't be determined by one's undergarments. Learning what you like, playing around with what you see other people do, and keeping or discarding as necessary is part and parcel of discovering your own sexual identity. Not very "healthy" sexual encounter has to occur in the context of a relationship with lots of conversation and people being appreciated for their stellar personalities. And being physically attracted to the person you want to sleep with isn't "shallow." There is no need for a false dichotomy here. You can quite literally have it all.

The word "empowerment" gets thrown around a lot, so much so that its meaning has become watered down and lost. However, I believe empowerment, at least in this context, comes through taking ownership of your appearance, whatever that may be. Empowerment doesn't come from creating more rules of what's appropriate, healthy, or socially acceptable. It comes from letting women, including young women, go through that entirely natural process of self-discovery and exploration. Fun, flippance, naughtiness... it's all okay. And we can both encourage Victoria's Secret to expand their notion of sexuality without completely decoupling lingerie from sexuality (at least for people who express aspects of their sexual identity through lingerie). No woman's self-esteem should be dependent on the underwear she chooses, and that goes both ways.

Final Thoughts on the 2013 Victoria's Secret Fashion Show

As far as the show itself, there isn't much to say. The lingerie was bland, and the entire production was boring. The pieces that most impressed me (the harnesses, corsets, and 3-D printed lingerie) weren't actually made by VS at all. While the VSFS didn't have a record viewership this year, it was the leader in programming for the night it aired, indicating that the show is still extremely popular.

I may be dating myself, but my favorite Victoria's Secret Fashion Show happened in 2005 (i.e. Tyra Banks' last show), because it was genuinely creative, imaginative, and fashionable. In the last eight years, however, Victoria's Secret has opted for focusing on items that can be purchased from within their stores, a, strategic marketing move, but one that results in a steadily duller show year after year as VS' own product offerings become more and more homogenous. Even the musical talent for this year was lackluster, and had I not felt the need to watch and discuss the show for TLA readers, I'd have skipped it entirely. It's just not interesting anymore.

Fellow lingerie addicts, did you watch the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show this year? If so, what did you think of it? And what are your thoughts on the way people discuss diversity and sexuality in regards to Victoria's Secret?

Photo Credits: All images via Getty Images. Taken by Randy Brooke.

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Cora Harrington

Founder and Editor in Chief of The Lingerie Addict. Author of In Intimate Detail: How to Choose, Wear, and Love Lingerie. I believe lingerie is fashion too, and that everyone who wants it deserves gorgeous lingerie.

23 Comments on this post

  1. Christine says:

    Cora, Hon, you are the best. I agree with every word of your post. It is after all 2014 and not the 50’s. It would seem that there is a selective acceptance of diversity. What I mean is that we all say we are not racist, bigots, homophobes, etc. but as a society we seem to be pretty selective in the application of that value. We applaud it in one application but deny it in others. There most certainly needs to be a change in how the normal shape of a woman is portrayed. As fo myself I can’t say I know many size ones but do know quite a few size fourteens. A big thank you too for including our trans-sisters in this discussion. This is a segment of society that is shunned by the majority and in fact shunned to by many in the LGB community as well. It’s high time that we treat them with the human dignity they deserve. Bless you Cora.

  2. T. says:

    Who gives a shit about diversity when VS uses cotton picked by child labor? Isn’t that far more troubling and disturbing? Be honest now.

  3. Eve says:

    Michael, I just wanted to ask you what makes you claim that “it is true that visual appearance of [your] partners is in some ways (on average) more important to [you] than it is for women”? Just because more women are objectified than men, it doesn’t mean that we wouldn’t like to have a drop-dead gorgeous partner any less than you do.

    Anyway, on the topic of sexuality, there is something that I can’t quite figure out… and that would be the obsession we seem to have with it. Doesn’t matter which brand you are talking about, the focus is almost always on being/looking/feeling sexy. I understand the importance of discovering one’s sexuality, embracing it, feeling empowered by it, etc. What I don’t understand is why a woman must be defined only by her sexuality? Why does a woman have to be or feel sexy in order to feel like a woman? Would a man have to feel sexy in order to feel like a man?

    There are so many definitions to what being sexy means, and there are so many ways a woman can be or feel sexy. The point is, we all know that it’s okay for a woman to be sexy and we all encourage it. The question is, would it be okay for a woman to NOT be sexy? This is the question I’d like to ask everyone else.

  4. My gripe with Victoria’s Secret, its model selection and its fashion show also revolves around its lack of diversity. But it is what that lack of diversity implies about men that angers me. While it is true that visual appearance of our partners is in some ways (on average) more important to us than it is for women, we are not all the same. We are not all attracted to the exact same kind of woman. What is sexy to one man is very definitely not going to be sexy to others. The women I am attracted to tend to be so slender that most men I know don’t find them at all appealing. On the other hand I know men who love women who are very curvy, while I would feel like I wouldn’t know what to do with them.

    I have said almost everyday of my life for the past twenty years that I wish I were bisexual and had no preference about anyone at all, that I found everyone attractive. That to me would be a wonderful person to be. However it is a goal I have been unable to achieve. It seems as impossible as changing anything else about one’s sexual orientation. It comes down to the same thing, we have to learn to live with who we are and love ourselves in spite of our self perceived flaws. Hence Victoria’s Secret by constantly trying to place me in a box with all the other men, and communicating indirectly to the women of the world that this is all we men will ever be attracted to, is discouraging the women I adore the most from thinking of themselves as sexy, which they most definitely are. A concept emphasized by that fact that Victoria’s Secret doesn’t carry their sizes.

  5. Rubaya, taste is subjective but if you consider full bust brands to be “boring” you haven’t done your research. It’s not a perfect world by any means but sexy attractive options exist. For nursing, cake and hot milk are two companies creating lovely designs. I didn’t watch this years show. It’s alway the same. Padded contour bras gussied up by throwing some Swarovski at them (I’m really developing an aversion to bling on bras, it’s trashy), or hidden by one off custom pieces. From the use of cutlets and contour tape, it’s all a facade. I don’t think it’s slut shaming to suggest it’s inappropriate for a 12 year old to ask for a push up bra. Thanks to vs’s marketing practices, I have heard these requests. Again, a well written article raising many valid points. Thank you, Cora!

    • Cora says:

      I don’t really like poorly done or lazy Swarovksi accessorizing (which, unfortunately, a lot of crystallizing is), but I don’t think it’s always trashy. Karolina Laskowska, for example, does some really amazing work with Swarovksi crystals and so does Flo Foxworthy. Velda Lauder also used them to great effect on her corsets when she was alive.

      As far as 12 year olds asking for push up bras, I think there’s a way of steering your child to choices you feel are more appropriate without implying there’s something faulty or wrong with either push up bras or sexuality. Because that’s what slut-shaming is…asserting that women who wear push-up bras or “trashy” lingerie or what have you or somehow less deserving of respect than women who don’t.

      I also use chicken cutlets and contour tape, so I guess I’m facading all over the place. ;-)

    • Rubaya Binte Siraj says:

      Thanks for naming sites that I didn’t know. I did explore them after you named them, but somehow I wasn’t satisfied. I am a sucker for flashy lingerie which I rarely find in plus-sized brands. Maybe that is the reason I am not liking my options. Plus-sized brands carry knickers which are only sexy if they are thongs, and their normal bikinis resemble briefs. I don’t like thongs or briefs, so I am quite disappointed. Again, we are thrown out of the designer brand range. You are lucky that you stay in US. Here in Bangladesh free size knickers doesn’t fit and XL-20 like me! So, I have to buy online spending a lot of cash. That really makes my blood boil!

      • Cora says:

        I can’t even imagine how hard the selection must be in Bangladesh! Which brands do you like? And do you have any recommendations for lingerie addicts who live in your part of the world?

        • Rubaya Binte Siraj says:

          We have poor quality lingerie from China that does not last a month. I get odd looks from the sales staff when I tell them that I am a 34F. Only one or two shop stocks a few bras in my size of the worst quality possible. They are bras made by department stores. The lace reminds me of sandpaper. That’s why I order online spending thousands of bucks for a single bra.

          I know that many people will disagree with me here but the mid-range plus-sized lingerie brands does not appeal to me. Most of their pieces look frumpy to me. However, I do like a few designs but they are not plenty. The plus-sized brands I usually like are out of my budget range. I am a sucker for Japanese lingerie aesthetics- colourful and intricately designed. I also shop from them too. Not many Western brands cater to my taste.

  6. Katie says:

    I want to comment on certain things about the show and will touch on a topic, sorry, yes, size but it’s relevance to racial diversity.
    Cora, I used to work in the high fashion industry. Even though I work in a completely different field now, I still follow the ins and outs of designers, trends and most of all, the models. The models featured in the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show, outside of the contracted Angels, are all high fashion models; These are the same girls walking the runways of the Dior couture and Balenciaga RTW show.
    There is an overwhelming lack of size diversity which trickles into racial diversity. We are seeing this void with the castings results for this year’s VSFS.
    The contracted Angels are significantly different than the other models because the Angels wouldn’t be able to be cast in a Dior couture, Chanel or Balenciaga RTW show unless it was a special appearance/booking. They simply do not have the designers’ desired proportions for the high fashion samples. However, we see that all the contracted Angels are white.
    There is a privilege these non-sample sized white models have over minority models of a similar size. There are plenty of black models (and other minorities) who are more along the size of Adriana Lima, Candice Swanepoel and Doutzen Kroes. However, you will never see them in the VSFS. These black models and other minorities are overlooked by the agents in favor of the minority models who can fit into the sample size mold. These minority models are less likely to be groomed to get a perfect runway walk, sleek portfolio and media presence. You need to get word out to the agencies and the casting directors. Not just the brand. These agencies need to start scouting, pushing and believing in minority models who can represent size diversity. I miss the good old days of when Tyra ruled VS. You need to write to John Pfeiffer(casting director), Monica Mitro (creative development at VS), Sophia Neophitou (editor of 10 magazine and contributor to VSFS), IMG models, Women model management, DNA models etc. It’s not just Victoria’s Secret’s fault. If the agencies are not sending the models, then VS doesn’t know these minority models even exist. Agencies are going to push and send their top girls to the casting, who just happen to be the girls dominating the couture runways (and they just happen to be white and extreme sample sized).
    Furthermore, I want to point out again that the majority of the models featured in the VSFS frequently walk in the high end shows that require the designer’s aesthetic of a sample size. This plays a huge role in the unrealistic fashioning of the models in the VSFS. If you see any of these models’ polaroids (polaroids taken by the agencies with no makeup, no hair styling, no chicken cutlet magic, no photoshop) you will see that they look very different from the way they are portrayed in the VSFS. Even though a model’s job is the portray and take on a character, I think a company has the responsibility to portray human bodies in a realistic light. Many of these models don’t even wear bras or lingerie in real life. Without the chicken cutlets and tape and contouring magic on top of the Very Sexy Push Up bra or Fabulous Push Up Bra, the non-Angel models in VSFS cannot fill out the bras. This doesn’t mean women who cannot fill out bras should not be represented in VSFS, no. I would be happy if maybe 15% of the runway had those type of models along with models who are not so “couture-like” that they can fill out the bras without all that magic. Realistically, a woman who is going to VS to buy a bra is going to look more like the later than the former. I would also like to see less of this “chicken cutlet” magic on the “couture” models in VSFS and more bras that show their natural shape–just as a real woman would wear it. Pretty lacy bralettes on those type of models would be a more realistic fantasy as a non-model woman with a couture-like body just isn’t going to find time to purchase a VS push-up bra, add in two chicken cutlets, tape and contouring makeup. It’s just as unrealistic as the women who end up spilling out of VS’ size range but naturally achieve VSFS cleavage cannot strive to look like a couture model.

  7. Gary says:

    I watched the show, enjoyed the models and the actual lingerie, but beyond that found it mostly boring and overproduced. The elaborate harnesses and “theme” looks bore no resemblance to reality, and bordered on silly. And I question the point of garter straps (either on a garter belt or corsette) without any stockings attached. What’s the point of that?

    • Cora says:

      I thought the harnesses (Which were designed by Zana Bayne) were awesome! Of course, I’m always biased towards the corsetry (because corsets are awesome too), but I’ve seen lots of people rocking harnesses lately and they’re definitely becoming more popular as everyday wear. As far as the garters with no stockings thing, that’s become more popular in runway shows too. I admit, it looks a bit odd to me as well, but I suppose it’s a styling thing? I don’t know…

  8. Rubaya Binte Siraj says:

    Plus-sized brands are really boring (be it Wacoal-Eveden, Panache or Curvy Kate). And have you seen any plus-sized lingerie from designer brands, except Chantelle? In my opinion the best nursing bras come from Elle Macpherson Intimates. No matter how much these ‘alternate lingerie brands’ froth at the mouth about how they want to create pretty lingerie for their consumers, they end up boiling my blood for their hypocrisy.

    This year’s show was OK. I thought I would start crying at Swift’s inevitable performance of ‘I Knew You Were Trouble’, but didn’t. Most of the lingerie displayed were available in stores (although not any more). The Fantasy Bra was a purely jewellery piece, unlike before. But the replica they are selling is a mockery and shaming of the original and those who want it’s replica. I was over with the show’s hype a long time back, when I had encountered the fashion show of Aimer.

  9. I agree it was very boring this year and the absence of women of color was a little disturbing. I usually look forward to the show for its glitzy production and musical parts but it was very dull as were the designs. They’re going to need a bit of a “face lift” when it comes to the image to keep their audience.

  10. Amaryllis says:

    Always mildly interested in hearing about the VS stuff, because of the knock on effect and the amusing hypocritical hysteria it produces in our right wing press…. but I don’t find it very relevant here in the UK. It’s not a brand that works for me anyway, being fairly two dimensional and boring in terms of lingerie and also not being a high street presence for me, but it’s an interesting lesson in market dominance. Which they undoubtedly have for the perceived ‘sexy, slim, fit, un-threatening, young things’ bracket. I say perceived, because I think it’s an artificially engineered bracket that works more for gossip writers than for real people.
    The concerns that you raise about slut-shaming and body-positivity being hijacked are all good ones, but I don’t think they are limited to one brand, or even one type. Ultimately, body positivity started taking off on social media, and lots of very negative people instantly clamped down on it by insisting on their own type of positivity was right and everyone else was wrong. Oldest story in the book.
    The conversation is getting deliberately hijacked by people who can’t cope with a scenario without ‘baddies’ and who can’t cope with a spectrum of ok’ness. And that’s the conversation we should be having. Not the age at which it’s appropriate to wear a thong (oldest or youngest, both are not your business in my book), or what lingerie is for good girls or bad girls, or even what brands make what sizes – the conversation we should be having, is about how many different kinds of ok’ness there are, and how one doesn’t threaten the other. Then we can say “It’s ok that not all brands make for my figure, because some do and some don’t… but I want to see more mainstream recognition” or “I’m really sad that this niche market doens’t represent me, but at least they’re broadening horizens by representing XYZ, and maybe with support they will grow, and the message will get out or they’ll be able to diversify”.
    Together, supporting true diversity, everyone is so much stronger. And that support goes further – people need to ask themselves if they only look at brands that conform to their assumptions, while they’re complaining about those. Do they check the brands with the hot black ladies if they’re not black? Do they automatically assume that it “isn’t for them” if the model is larger than average and they’re not? (I am guilty of that – if something showcases UK 12 models, I tend to assume that it is an exclusively plus size brand and not look, because that’s the norm… I’m trying to at least double check that hypothesis now, in support of varied model sizes). And how about brands that make good maternity or masectomy lines in with their normal lines? Do we support them, or just assume they’ll be there when we need them? I think the conversation needs to be about more than just what the size range of one brand’s models are. We need to be talking about it being ok that there are brands that represent the 20 – 30 market, and it being ok that they’re different to the brands that represent the 30 – 40 and the 40 – 50 and so on, and then getting together and demanding some equality of representation on mainstream media. We need to be saying “I’m a white, fit, 30-something; and I’m fine being represented by a 19 year old double amputee or a Chinese woman with underarm hair, or a black 45 year old”. We need to be having the conversation about who we are, as people, as women, as lingerie lovers – and hopefully finding out that all of those people can represent us and be relevant to us. And, as consumers, that takes active participation and not bitching about one easy to target large brand, with a particularly bland mainstream face and a relaxed reply policy. It’s an easy target (but also one that get’s it’s moneys worth from the negative press).

  11. Excellent points all, Cora. One thing I thought about writing about for my blog was the continued use of eroticized same-sex interaction, between the Angels and also with Taylor Swift. The hand holding and ass swatting that went on was a perfect example of how Victoria’s Secret flirts with homoeroticism to indicate ‘naughtiness’ or ‘sexiness’ while also publicly underlining how their Angels are wives and mothers.

  12. Manoela says:

    This article is amazing. I am still on VS’ target, being 20, but I can clearly see what you are talking about. In Brazil, we have a weird relationship with Victoria’s Secret, for some reasons. First because the brazilian Angels are quite a success, second because we don’t have anything near this type of lingerie, sizing or price over here. So it ends up being “the most amazing store ever”. I have been completely in love with them before, today I still shop, still like some of the things, but not as much as I liked before, mostly because I discovered more stuff to like.
    Slut shaming gets on my nerves. no one should be classified or judged by the way they express their sexuality, nor by what kind of underwear they rather wear. I like how you talk about it, even if it’s not of your personal taste, because it is important to some girls to realize they can feel sexy (because yes – it is ok to feel sexy), no matter what sexy means. Sexy can be much more than what Victoria’s Secret shows, but it can be that, too!
    Every time you talk about diversity, I feel glad for reading it. You are a great voice and definitely one of the reasons I opened up my mind more and more on this particular subject. Thank you.
    The only thing I would like to add on being negative – even though I actually like the show – is the talks on “what it takes to be an Angel”. It doesn’t take training, it doesn’t take sports and eating healthy. I’ve been on my path for what was my greatest dream of all, and failed, because I’ve learned that these are not the only things that make them Angels. This mentality of “if you try hard enough you can be perfect too” just adds a lot on the common prejudice that fat-women-are-only-fat-because-they-don’t-try-hard-enough, which I don’t even have to say how harming is, for many reasons.

    Anyway, this comment is already long enough :P Thank you for such a great article and for, once again, an important voice that analyses the right things and what should be changed.

  13. denocte says:

    I love everything about this article. It reminds me why you are such an important voice in the blogging world and lingerie world in general. I have to confess that the issue of age re:diversity is one that often slips my mind. Thank you for bringing it back to my attention.
    xoxo denocte

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