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Saying Goodbye to The Lingerie Addict

This is the hardest article I've ever had to write. So much so that I've put it off for as long as I can, even though I know, in my heart, it's the right decision.

The Lingerie Addict celebrates its 14th anniversary this month. At the end of April, I'm closing the site for good and saying goodbye to TLA.

It feels so final to say this. I've known it was coming since January and even now, typing it out, I'm starting to cry. The Lingerie Addict has been a part of my life since my early 20s. The prospect of suddenly having life without it feels scary.

You might not know this, but I first thought about closing the site on its 9th anniversary. I held back because it felt like I was on the cusp of something big. When I got my book deal and released In Intimate Detail: How to Choose, Wear, and Love Lingerie in August 2018, I knew I was right.

Now I feel like I’m on the cusp of something big and exciting in a different way. I want to see what’s next. And to do that, I have to let The Lingerie Addict go.

The archives will stay open. However, comments will be closed. For the foreseeable future, the TLA shop will also stay open. As will the Patreon as I'm thinking about ways to rework it, to make it a part of this new direction I'm going.

When I first started what eventually became The Lingerie Addict in 2008, I never dreamed it would be what it is today. TLA began as a hobby. A way to decompress from the "real world." Yet in the last 14 years, it's become so, so much more. So much of that is thanks to you. Now it's time to see what else there is.

It’s also true, even if I was reluctant to admit it, that many people don’t necessarily find information from blogs anymore. And it is also also true that the internet - particularly social platforms - are becoming more hostile to my topic. It's a constant uphill battle, and one I'm increasingly tired of fighting. At some point, swimming uphill and standing in the same place start to feel a lot like the same thing.

I’ll never leave fashion. I love it too much. However, it's time to rethink how I can reach people. I'm not sure The Lingerie Addict, in its current incarnation, is the best way to do that anymore. What if, by shoehorning everything I want to do and be onto this platform, I’m missing out on doing more some other way? I won't know until I try.

Thinking about timing, especially in the wake of the pandemic and getting COVID twice, life is short. I’ll be 40 in a couple of years. I’m not old, but I’m not young either. And it's become plain to me that things I want to do in the future - like write a second book - aren't things I can do alongside running The Lingerie Addict.

I want to reconnect with the love of lingerie and fashion I once had. I want to write again without the pressure of feeling like I need to regularly post to blog or worry about SEO. And it's an unfortunate truth that TLA has made me more and more anxious of late.

No small part of that anxiety comes from being expected to do the same thing as larger publications with startup funding and dozens of employees. The idea that one person, on one small site, can cover the entirety of a global industry industry - and people being upset that I can't - is honestly disheartening.

Nor have I had a true vacation in more than a decade. And I - Cora Harrington the person, not The Lingerie Addict the brand - need a break. After 14 years, I deserve one.

I’ll likely adapt some of my content to other platforms - such as YouTube - and I do have a few new ideas I want to try, but this particular thing…? I'm clearing room on my plate for the next thing.

Starting May 1st, I’m on sabbatical. I need time to rest but also to consider what’s next. I need time to think without a deadline. I'll be gone the entire month of May. Hopefully I'll be in the right headspace and physical space to work on bigger and better projects when I return.

The longer I do what's not right for me, the longer I delay what is.

But it wouldn’t be fair of me to just dwell on the negative. The Lingerie Addict has changed my life. From a crisis line worker to the leading expert in my niche, the past 14 years have been a journey I could never dream of. I've made friends, learned so much, had so many opportunities. I've become a better person in every possible way.

I hope I've helped to make your life better in some small way as well. Whether it's by helping you find community, discover a new favorite brand, or even have some pretty pictures to look at to distract from the seriousness of the world.

Though the timing is difficult, it's right for other reasons too. Karolina, Quinne, and I are all moving in different directions. It's time for them to say goodbye to TLA as well.

While I thought I would make it to the 15 year anniversary, 14 years is the right time. And stopping TLA doesn't mean I’m going away. You'll still be able to find me in all the usual places (like Twitter and Instagram).

I’m still figuring out what the rest of 2022 and beyond will look like. But I hope you’ll be there. The next chapter will be incredible.


Cora Harrington

Founder and Editor in Chief of The Lingerie Addict. Author of In Intimate Detail: How to Choose, Wear, and Love Lingerie. I believe lingerie is fashion too, and that everyone who wants it deserves gorgeous lingerie.

35 Comments on this post

  1. Johanna says:

    I’ve been following you since the first incarnation, and loved watching you and your blog grow. I’ve learned a lot from you, and not just lingerie. Enjoy your sabbatical, and thanks for everything!

  2. Anita says:

    Thank you, Cora. You helped me discover new brands and gave me the courage to wear beautiful lace expensive lingerie, silk robes, and loungewear and celebrate my body in lingerie for me. I learned so much from your book and your blog and newsletter. You will be missed. We (the collective) understand the struggle. I can’t wait to see your next iteration – Still I Rise, Phenomenal woman…

  3. Thank you for bringing me and so many others joy, education, and inspiration through your work. I’m sure I’m not alone in wishing you the best of luck in your endeavors!

  4. Sol says:

    Its been and amazing journey hasn’t it?
    I’ll miss you and all the contributors that have passed through here over the years.
    I look forward to what you will all do next.
    Back when you wrote as Treacle as well as now, you’ve been a great companion and I have thoroughly enjoyed all the content posted…
    I wish you all well.

  5. Tremblay Tom says:

    Cora
    Before you go, can you please share with me the brand and model of the purple print pajamas you wore for the NYTimes article announcing your retirement. You look great in them!
    Tom

  6. Eric Edwards says:

    Cora,

    I was an early follower as you began your journey and I loved your work and passion. It was a pleasure to see your blog grow and morph into its current iteration. Your body positive attitude, sense of humour, playfulness, healthy eroticism, and generally focus on your topic was so wonderful to watch and refreshing.

    Best to you on your new adventures!!!

  7. Valis says:

    Thank you so, so much for all the time, knowledge, and love you’ve poured into this blog over the past 14 years. I’ve learned so much through your hard work, and I can’t wait to see what you do next!

  8. Princess says:

    This is so sad but I’m happy you’re doing what’s best for you. I wish you the best in everything you do Cora, you’re amazing. Although, I wish the website was just left alone, so that we can still read articles , there’s still a lot I haven’t read from here….. I feel so sad.

  9. Lizard says:

    I’ve been following TLA for years, been too timid to comment for the majority of my time here but I am thankful I have worked up enough confidence lately so I can leave my gratitude. This got lengthy, I suppose it is a bit of a love letter to the site itself…
    I think this site has spread a lot of positivity and good in its run. I am glad the archives will stay open, I have appreciated being able to send things like “The Myth of the Perfect Breast” articles to friends feeling down about their bodies, or being able to give resources for amazing harnesses to people who often find themselves sized out. I owe TLA for helping me finally find a 26in bra band, the Katherine Hamilton review was revolutionary to me! I’m so appreciative of how TLA preserves beautiful pieces, posts like Enter The Serpent and all the “I Wish I Bought” articles.
    I loved all the guest posts, they were a great way to showcase so many diverse experiences, opinions, insight and individual experiences to lingerie. I came across the Neptune Violet again post just the other day, that was a wonderful read, but there have been so many great guest posts!
    I admire how much TLA has given a platform to so many different people, perspectives and ideas. I love how educational this blog has been concerning production and labor, and how much it has showcased the incredible skill that goes into constructing lingerie. This blog has consistently prioritized the value of labor, and the laborers themselves, which is such an importable and valuable position to have in fashion at large, with its ever growing obsession of cheaper and faster at all costs.
    I hope YouTube and the mailing list can keep those of us without twitter and instagram in the loop, I would hate to miss out on the second book! Cora has such an amazing and unique voice and I suppose I’ll have to lurk on twitter to make sure I don’t miss any upcoming projects, which I’m sure will be incredible and exciting!! It’s so beautiful to be able to recognize personal change and life shifts and be able to shed the old skin that no longer fits, has me thinking of the Enter The Serpent post again, and it’s so wonderful to know the creator of this beautiful blog is staying true to herself and is also giving herself a break so deeply deserved. As much as I love this site, knowing that it is being closed for that reason makes it feel a lot of sweet, not just bitter. It is sad the internet is growing increasing hostile to lingerie, and increasingly in favor of formats like twitter which can never give the same type of nuance and information as long form media like blogs, but knowing the ultimate reason for the site closing is that all the contributors have grown their own ways is reassuring.

    Congratulations, best of luck, and thanks so much!!

  10. Annaleisha Mae says:

    Oh Coral! You’ve sparked so much joy in my life.

  11. Kimberly LeGrand says:

    I hope you know I’ve always respected you, Cora, going way back to your Treacle days and my FOH days! I feel like you were wise and captured a wave in social media/blog time and exploded it to everything possible. Congratulations on making the tough decision to close this amazing moment in time and take a breather before starting the next. Best of luck to you and hope our paths cross again.

  12. Middle aged husband who dotes on his wife says:

    So glad to have just discovered your site. Looks amazing. Wish you all the best.

  13. d says:

    i just started reading TLA late last year and it has invigorated my love for lingerie and fashion. thank you so much for your knowledge for the past 14 years. i am sad to see the end as a new reader, but so happy and hopeful for what is to come from you!! here’s to new beginnings ❤️

  14. Amir says:

    The Rago team wishes you and your team best wishes on your journey. We have always respected and cherished your role in our industry. Thank you for your work.

  15. AnnieA says:

    Best wishes for the future, Cora! I’ve enjoyed reading your blog, and look forward to buying your second book as well. First, enjoy the brek

  16. Alanna says:

    Thank you so much for the community you’ve brought together, the information and inspiration you’ve collected and shared, and all of the wonderful people I’ve found through this blog. All the very best of luck with your break, your life and whatever projects you pursue in the future!

  17. B says:

    It’s been a wild (educational) ride and very sorry to see you go. But also excited to see what you do next!

  18. ash says:

    The first time that I learned I do not have to suffer in a bra was the first time I discovered this blog. Being a reader from Turkey, even though I couldn’t afford any of the merch or any of the recommended beautiful garments, I was hooked and obsessively reading every article! Reading about fashion, sizing standards, and production made me appreciate slow and custom fashion. Reading the articles and reviews about queer-friendly brands made me feel seen.

    Thank you for introducing me to a whole new world filled with lingerie and self-love.

    Wish you all the best in your new adventures! <3

  19. Jo says:

    Thank you for all the joy, information, and inspiration your writing has given me and many others. I know I’m not alone in wishing you the best of luck wherever the universe takes you!

  20. Crystal says:

    Sad to see another independent website on the open web, shut down, and that content just move like everyone else, to the gated communities of corporate-owned social media. Where you cannot say or do as you like. And your content is hosted for “free” but earns money for massive corporations with highly questionable ethics.

    Social media is not the web and is not what the web was intended to be. But the more independent website owners and bloggers who “give up” their web presence, and just pile their content into Instagram (Facebook) and others, the poorer the whole Internet becomes.

    Good luck Cora. But I hope you change your mind and come back.

    Your site has been around almost since Web 1.0 (1990s/early 00s). It has ridden through the Web 2.0 era (mid 00s – present). Suggest you read about what Web 3.0 is envisaged to be – i.e., hopefully another era in which content creators take back ownership of their content again, rather than having it monetized by others. In some ways, it might be more like the early Internet (Web 1.0) was.

  21. Xo says:

    How can we get a hold of the archives and thank you for all you’ve done:)

  22. Melissa says:

    Thank you for all of the knowledge you and your contributors have shared over the years. I always admired your practices related to inckusivity. Rest well and I wish you the best in your next endeavors.

  23. Emmanuella says:

    This website is what made me realize I had been wearing the wrong bra size for 3 years. I’ve read each article religiously since then. You will be missed.

  24. Ruby Tuesday says:

    I wish you so much good rest and peace, Cora. I hope your sabbatical is refreshing and full of those good slow joys. Your work here has been so impactful. From educating to sharing in frilly delight and a reverence for construction, and I know I am one of many who will treasure it.

  25. rachel says:

    I’ve been reading you since you were Treacle/the Stocking Addict (were we ever so young?). I was impressed by your forthright simple enjoyment of lingerie and I quickly emulated your confidence and never bothered feeling weird or creepy about how much I simply *like* lingerie. I’ve also always credited you with leading lingerie blogging away from cringey hypersexualization of the field and towards a respect for it as an art and legitimate source of fashion and beauty. Thank you for that.

    I’m not on twitter, but I’ll check your timeline from time to time in hopes that you’re doing great.

  26. Marjorie Rose says:

    Oh dear Cora, you inspired me and my love of lingerie so much. I have so many books, including yours, in the subject and collect vintage pieces and sew lingerie too. I just got my dream job as a bra fitter and work in intimate apparel in big department store. Your writings and book always reads with passion and detail and is a true treasure to me. I wish you the best success and joy in your next dream coming true and enjoy your holiday ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for inspiring me.

  27. Collette says:

    Congratulations and best wishes! I am excited to see what comes next.

  28. B says:

    Sending you best wishes and thank you!

  29. John P says:

    Sad to see you go and I totally understand. I’ve run a blog and it’s hard work. My partner has been reading Lingerie Addict for 10 years, she says and it’s helped change her relationship to lingerie. She’s even got me buying washable silk loungewear!

    I’ve cited your blog at work as an example of successful small web publications and the problems of getting content moderation right at scale.

    Best of luck with you next journey.

  30. Tamara says:

    Thank you and best to you in your new direction!

  31. Kat says:

    I was just going to reply to your tweet, but I thought maybe I would run out of characters. I only just discovered you in the past couple of years; the years before that, I didn’t pay any attention to lingerie or pretty clothes in general because I was nursing babies and toddlers, so all of my clothing including underwear was all postpartum and nursing wear. When I wanted my youngest at the start of the pandemic, I started to search out pretty and high quality underwear and lingerie to help me feel more like my body belonged to me again. I followed your tweets and read some of the pieces on your site, which allowed me to try new things and start to feel pretty again. I am sad that you are closing the site, but I understand that you are one person and you should have the freedom to grow and evolve. Best of luck to you in your future endeavors. I will continue to be on the lookout because while I am a new fan, I am a lifelong one.

  32. Claire Syrenne says:

    Congratulations Cora on everything you created, curated and advocated for through TLA. I had the privilege of your knowledge and guidance to steer my own business to greater success and I’ll always be grateful for that. On a personal note I have learnt vast amounts from you and TLA about trans needs, sex-worker rights, physically prohibitive solutions in lingerie and dismantling the white-bias in fashion. I am a better person for having read your blog for the last 12 years. The cost to you for all this extraordinary information has been evident at times and you do not, and have never, deserved it. I can hear the hope, excitement and anticipation in your post and it’s wonderful. Making room for possibilities is brave and beautiful and necessary for growth and peace. I wish you every ounce of luck, rest, adventure and discovery. Thank you for giving us your time, knowledge and passion. The TLA will always be a triumph!

  33. Kimberley Heitman says:

    Best wishes for your next venture!

  34. Alice says:

    Thank you so much for all your work. I have really enjoyed your work and look forward to supporting your future work.

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