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A few days ago, I posed a question to one of the many listservs I’m a member of. In it, I asked for men to tell me what they thought about lingerie. Did they love it, hate it, or did they feel indifferent? Were certain kinds of lingerie better than other kinds? Did they have any suggestions for how women should wear their lingerie?
I got a lot of varied responses, but I wanted to share my three favorite with you here–
“Take it from a man who speaks from the vantage point of many years: Lingerie is only as sexy as the self-image of the woman who wears it. No amount, or lack of, lingerie on the outside will be sexy on a woman who does not feel it on the inside.” –John
“As a regular guy, I can appreciate the idea of lingerie, and certainly appreciate the sentiment a woman feels when selecting such clothing “for” her man. The reality is, however, that any kind of clothing looks better in a little pile on the floor than coming between two partners. Lingerie is nice, but naked is better. Just one opinion from a regular guy.” –Jeff
And my absolute favorite from Erik:
“In short; men LOVE lingerie on women! An easy testament to it is if you look at the cover of virtually every major men’s magazine from Maxim, GQ, Esquire, and the list goes on and on and you will find a common element: A woman wearing some type of lingerie.
There are some men who are intimidated by it in terms of not understanding “how it works” with regards to how to undo parts of it when someone is wearing for them, and I think some women feel the same when they’re putting it on. There are also certainly a lot of men who are quite intimidated by the thought of buying lingerie for the woman in their life, or to even enter a store full of lingerie out of fear of a lot of a lot of other things.
Personally, as a true admirer of women who wear lingerie I don’t think there’s anything sexier than a woman who either A) likes to dress up and wear something sexy for her man, or B) likes to make herself feel sexy by wearing something provocative that only they know about under their clothes. It accentuates the truly wonderfully feminine side of women that we as men aren’t able to explore without the participation of the lady in our lives. Lingerie shows off the beautiful parts of a woman’s body in a way that other clothing cannot. When a woman wears lingerie for her man, or even in general for just herself, it’s like the beautiful wrapping for a great gift that’s underneath it all. Why else would the intimate apparel business be a multi-billion dollar industry worldwide?
In terms of which kinds of lingerie are better than others from a man’s perspective, it really varies. Quite simply a corset and thigh highs and high heels are always a major winner in my book and I suspect that is the strongest front runner for virtually any guy. Other times a sexy, lace teddy or even just a garter belt with stockings and heels or a nice sexy bra and thong works quite fantastically.
As far as how women should wear their lingerie, personally I go nuts over the idea of women who wear some of their intimates as outerwear, like a tasteful looking corset with a nice skirt or pants and a fitted jacket to go over it and heels. It shows this woman is truly confident all around, sexy and is in control of her own situation. That is truly hot and super alluring.
The other thing about how women should wear their lingerie is that it doesn’t just have to be on a special occasion that the “nice stuff” comes out. There’s something truly empowering and sexy watching a woman getting ready in the morning as she slides on her sexy panties one leg at a time and snugs them up against herself and how her beautiful bra perfectly accentuates her breasts. The image of that certainly leaves me thinking about her all day long, especially while I’m in the office wishing I could have her in front of me at that instance.
It also needs to be something that she genuinely enjoys wearing and feels comfortable in since there’s nothing more sacrilegious than buying a beautiful, sexy piece of lingerie that ultimately just sits in a drawer and never gets worn either because the woman doesn’t feel comfortable appearances-wises, or quite simply it just isn’t a comfortable or practical piece (i.e. a leather or vinyl corset on a hot summer day; you get the picture).”
Thanks for all your responses fellas! As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject. Man or woman, it doesn’t matter, what do you really think about lingerie?
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