Posts from May, 2010

The 7 Deadly Lingerie Sins

Marlies Dekkers

The Lingerie Addict has a sermon for you today and we’re talking about the 7 Deadly Sins of Lingerie.  Don’t worry about it if you see yourself in one or two of these; I’ve done all of them at one time or another. But if you feel the need to make a confession (or just want moral support), you can always drop me a line at

Drooling over something just because you saw a model wearing it in a magazine ad and then buying that something because your subconscious whispered that it’ll make you look like the model.  No, sweetie, it won’t.  If you have larger boobs, you’re gonna need a supportive bra…not a bralette.

Buying lingerie in the size you used to be.  Here’s the deal–if you lose weight, gain weight, get pregnant, have a baby, stop breastfeeding, or do anything else that changes the way your boobies fit in your bras then you need to have a professional refitting.  The same rule applies to panties.  Don’t buy knickers in the size you wish you were; buy them in the size you actually are.  Your bum (and the rest of your bits) will thank you.

Not taking care of your lingerie.  How often have we heard the handwashing rule?  The no dryer rule?  The no wringing rule?  Plain and simple–your lingerie will look better and last longer if you take care of it.  That means your knickers should never touch the inside of a machine washer and/or dryer.  And if you really want to get hardcore about lingerie care, then invest in quality products like specialty washes and cotton hosiery gloves. I promise you’ll notice the difference.

Being jealous of someone else’s lingerie (this also includes being jealous of their figure).  Let me tell you, there is no better time to be a lingerie addict than right now.  The 21st century has a bigger variety of sizes, a wider range of colors, and better quality fabrics than any other time in the past 100 years.  There is no reason whatsoever to wear lingerie that doesn’t make you look and feel like a goddess.

Buying anything and everything…especially if it’s on sale.  All together now…it’s not a deal if you never wear it.  I don’t care if you retrieved that bra out of the $5 bin at Ross.  If it tears up after 2 hours and leaves bruises on your ribcage, then you wasted your money.  There are plenty of good, inexpensive bras out there that will amortize to pennies per wear if taken care of properly.

Hating on other people’s lingerie.  Yes, I know g-strings aren’t your thing.  Yes, I know you prefer stockings over pantyhose.  But there is no reason to call people who wear those items by bad names or to create entire web forums, discussion boards, and blogs dedicated to badmouthing those people.  And for all the folks who think they’re getting away with something because they’re “anonymous”…an anonymous asshole is still an asshole.

Buying lingerie out of your price range, even if you have to use a credit card to get it.  My fellow La Perla, Wolford, and Agent Provocateur addicts know what I’m talking about.  Yes, I too can be seduced by the beauty of a perfect pair of high waist, chantilly lace, hand embroidered panties…but that doesn’t mean they’re worth a month of ramen dinners, much less going into debt over.  If the Kiki de Montparnasse keeps calling your name, set up a separate bank account, and then treat yourself after you sock away enough money to pay for it in cash.

How have you sinned lately?   Why don’t you share it in the comments?

Ask the Addict: Pretty Bras for Bigger Busts?

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Today’s “Ask the Addict” feature comes courtesy of Shinxy who writes,


My boobs have been going on a growth spurt for about a year now, I’m now at least a 34E, and they’re still growing.

Where can I buy sexy, preferably cheap, bras for someone with a small rib measurement but large cup size?

I can only seem to find plus size bras in my cup size, but when I do find bras in my exact size, they’re often unattractive. I don’t mind plain, but beige or white with no detail whatsoever is unappealing to me.


Hi Shinxy,

Thanks so much for writing!  Well I’ve done some research and, just as you said, it’s hard to find small band/large cup size bras that are inexpensive, attractive, and available in more colors than black, brown, or white.

I don’t know much about your specific tastes, but I did try to pull up a few bras that aren’t basic, that come in your size, and sell for less than $50.  Tell me what you think? 


 Fantasie Helena Balcony Bra
 Midnight Grace “Starburst” Balconette Bra
Gossard “French Fancy” Plunge Bra
Butterfly Blue “Botanic” Satin Bra
Pour Moi “Flirt” Padded Bra
Alegro “Floral Jewel” Balconette Bra
And I’m pleased to report that Shinxy had the following to say the next day:
Hey Treacle,

These are perfect! Thank you so much!

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Sale Alert! Secrets in Lace Taking 40% Off Bettie Page Lingerie!

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Major news flash, vintage lingerie fans!  Secrets in Lace is taking 40% off everything in the Bettie Page Boudoir Collection for this weekend only with the code BETTIE40.  Secrets in Lace hardly ever puts their lingerie on sale so this is a huge deal.  Offer expires June 1, 2010.

If you’ve ever purchased from Secrets in Lace before, I’d love to hear what you think in the comments!

Bettie Page Boudoir Bullet Bra
$49.00 $29.40
 Bettie Page Boudoir Full Brief

$27.00 $16.20

 Bettie Page Boudoir Garter Belt
$54.00 $32.40

 Bettie Page Boudoir Robe
$79.00 $47.40

Photo Friday: Steve Diet Goedde

Considered the “Ansel Adams” of fetish photography, Steve Diet Goedde has more than earned his world-famous reputation.  Like Viva Van Story, Goedde was one of the few photographers I knew about before I even started this blog, and it’s almost criminal that I’m just now featuring him.

I’d be delighted to know your favorite photo from the very, very limited selection out of his portfolio below.

Review Wednesday: MySkins Nude Lingerie

If you’re pressed for time, and just want to know if MySkins is worth the money or not, here’s my answer:

YES Ohmigod…yes.

MySkins is the answer to one of my major gripes with the lingerie industry…the profound lack of “nude” lingerie in a variety of skintones.  Now I know that the color we think of as “flesh-toned” doesn’t match all flesh, but (and you’ll have to pardon me while I get on my soapbox for a minute), it comes a hell of lot closer to matching some shades than it does others.  It always pained me to search for nude bras, panties, stockings, or pantyhose only to realize that there was nothing, absolutely nothing, out there for women of my complexion.  To be perfectly, brutally honest, it was insulting; as if the lingerie industry didn’t give a damn about women of color, their money, or their needs.






MySkins is the first lingerie line I know of that targets the beautiful range of skin colors women can have.  Kelly over at The Lingerie Post told me about them a few months ago through my FormSpring, and shortly thereafter the people over at MySkins wrote to see if I’d like to try their lingerie in a shade appropriate to my skintone.  I selected Espresso, and received the T-shirt bra ($48) and Girl Short Pantie ($12) shortly thereafter.

In terms of fit, that bra and panty are among the most comfortable I own.  FYI, I try to test the lingerie I get for reviews in “real world” environments.  That often means I wear things to work all day.  After all, anything can feel good those first few hours, but it’s at the end of the day when you really know if you’re wearing a quality piece or not.  I feel confident recommending these because I know they felt amazing (not to mention, the bra and pantie gave great lines under my clothes).







My only major gripe (other than that I somehow wear XL panties now) is that the deepest shade available (Espresso) was still several tones too light for my skin. While the website photo looks like a rich, deep coffee brown, the in-person color came off as lighter and more “ashy.”  It was probably still a good enough match to wear under light-colored clothing, but I’d like to see MySkins come out with one or two darker shades for my ladies with gorgeous ebony skin.

Here’s the verdict: MySkins is worth my money.  If they produce a darker skintone, I won’t hesitate to buy it.  And if you’re lucky enough to already have a perfect match, then these are a wardrobe essential.

Disclosure: I received the item discussed above free of charge for review purposes only.  The retailer/manufacturer/designer did not influence this review in any way, shape, or form.  All opinions presented here are the authors own.

Results of the 1st Ever Panty Poll are in!

Thanks so much to everyone who took on the responsibility of helping me choose which knickers to put in my lingerie drawer!  There were some clear favorites and, as promised, I’m going to purchase all of your suggestions.  Unfortunately, several of the panties that had the most favorable response (pictured below) are now sold out in my size. 


But that’s okay, there’s still plenty here to keep me covered for a long time!  Want to know where to buy these panties (or just find out which ones didn’t make the cut)?  Click here for the original post. And if any of you own these knickers, I’d love to get your feedback!

Blurring the Line Between Fetish & Fashion: Laila Lee Lingerie

Lust.  I’m in it.  Laila Lee [Editor’s Note: As of January 2015, this site appears to be defunct] is a brand-spanking-new lingerie line designed by a lady of the same name.  Designed and constructed in New York City, Lee’s creations are all about indulging the sensual, sophisticated side of life.  Every piece is made by hand, and I’ve a featured of few of my favorite looks below.What do you think of Laila Lee?  I’m sure she’d love to read your impressions in the comments below.

Yay! I Have My Burlesque Show Photos!

Two major things happened tonight, lovely people. 
One, I got the photos back from my burlesque recital.  You can see one of them up above.  They’re pretty big files, so I’m sending the rest directly to my newsletter subscribers.  Sign up if you want to see them!
Two, I danced in my second burlesque show tonight.  It was a smaller venue with a smaller audience and the same routine, but it cemented my love of the tease.  I’m working on two new dances, and I hope to debut them in the next few weeks.
For now though, I’m going to bed.  The adrenaline is wearing off and I’m exhausted.  :-)

Review Wednesday: Wolford Dazzle Tights

 The name Wolford is associated with luxury, class, and elegance but when people first discover the brand they often wonder, “Why exactly do these stockings cost so much?”  After all, hosiery is hosiery, right?  And cheap pair of tights from the drugstore should cover your legs just as well as those from the department store, right?

Well…yes and no.  While all legwear pretty much serves the same function (to cover your legs), it’s not all created equally.  Think of it as the difference between a Kia and a BMW.  They’re both cars.  They’ll both get you from Point A to Point B.  But one is just a car while the other is an experience.  Wolford is, without a shadow of a doubt, the BMW of nylon.

While Wolford has dozens of items in its permanent Basics collection, the brand also releases special collections every season.  These limited edition items are only available for a few months, and once gone, they’re gone forever.  The Wolford Dazzle tights, which I’m reviewing here, are from this season’s line.

 Available in two colors, black and hibiscus (this is the color I own, and I just call it “raspberry”), these tights are a variation on the classic fishnet design.  They’re composed of an 81% nylon, 19% elastic blend and come in two sizes, small and medium, fitting a maximum height of 5’8″ and maximum hip measurement of 42″.  They retail for $55/pair and unlike most hosiery, are rarely ever on sale or eligible for discounts.

My first impression of the tights is that felt rather…light.  The fishnet weave is wide enough and the fibers are delicate enough, that it almost felt like I wasn’t holding anything when I removed the tights from their package.  My second impression, after putting them on, is that these tights are extraordinarily stretchy.  I think they could accommodate at least another inch or two and probably another three inches in the hips…good news for folks who don’t quite fit into a medium on the size chart.  My third impression was that these tights are a little…uncomfortable.  With most Wolford hosiery, I wear it and forget it.  With these, I was aware of them most of the day; something about the pattern made them a little more distracting than regular fishnets on my legs.

Here’s the verdict: While I’m more than happy to spend money on great lingerie, these didn’t wow or impress me.  They’re nice, as all Wolford hosiery is, but they’re not worth the premium.  I’d spend the money on pair of their basic pantyhose or fishnet tights before picking these up again.

Disclosure: I received the item discussed above free of charge for review purposes only.  The retailer/manufacturer/designer did not influence this review in any way, shape, or form.  All opinions presented here are the authors own.