Addicted To Lingerie: 8 Steps To Curb The Obsession

Bra hanging on old furniture

It’s fitting that I write this article for a blog named The Lingerie Addict as I have just come to grips with the fact that I truly am a lingerie addict myself. This is not something I admit lightly. I have spent years of my life lusting and fawning over hand worked corsets, vintage slip dresses and showy bras. I have spent loads of hard-earned cash on lacy camis, cheeky panties and matching boudoir sets. But a lingerie “addict”? Nah, that word can’t possible apply to me!

However earlier this month I began my annual task of spring cleaning. With the long, hard winter behind us I was eager to open the windows and let the fresh air inspire me to tackle my overstuffed dresser drawers and closets. It wasn’t until I sat down amidst my contents of 5 lingerie drawers when I realized how exceptional my collection really was.

It got me thinking: how many bras does the average woman own? Why do we hold on to things that no longer fit or flatter us? Why can’t I stop buying more and more lingerie? I certainly can’t be the only woman in the world with a dresser full of lingerie and an admitted spending problem. So I decided to research the statistics. The average woman today owns about 9 bras and about 20 panties contributing to the estimated $30 billion dollar global market. Lingerie spending has risen steadily since the economic crash of 2008 and shows no signs of slowing down with 50% of lingerie purchases spent on bras and 33% on panties. This is a far cry from my personal collection of 85+ bras and 100+ panties and I have a feeling I’m not alone here.

While my situation is not indicative of these statistics, I do believe that being a lingerie addict isn’t necessarily a bad thing. As with any shopping addiction, all it takes is a little discipline to keep yourself in control and your obsession in check. I will state here and now that my new goal for this year will be to curb my addiction and redirect it in a way that will save me more closet space and money by 2015. To help reach this goal I have constructed an “8 step program” for myself in order to reach full lingerie nirvana. These are steps that I have already begun taking to help keep my lingerie spending in control. If you feel you are in the same boat with your lingerie obsession (or have some additional advice for me) then feel free to take a cue from my new personal rulebook below.

1) Get rid of lingerie that does not fit

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We’ve all heard by now that 8 out of every 10 women are wearing the wrong size bra. Whether you believe the hype or not, the fact remains that many of us could benefit from a wardrobe purging of wrong or miss-sized items that we’ve been holding on to for one reason or another. I personally have a bevy of bras from a couple years back when I thought I was a size 34B. It turns out that I, too, was misinformed and have benefitted from switching sizes ever since. However I noticed that my substantial collection of brassieres included a significant amount of size 34B’s that I acquired throughout the years. 34B’s that I loved and wore despite the loose waistbands & gaping cups. Now that I know what a good fitting bra feels like I’ve tossed my 34B’s to the wayside and they’ve been gathering dust ever since. It is time for me to say goodbye these bras and make room for more practical pieces. The same holds true for anything that pokes, slips, squeezes, itches or shifts which is why I’m tossing my wedgie-inducing briefs, oversized nightgowns and impossibly suffocating pantyhose.

2) Nix lingerie that doesn’t suit your style

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It can be fun to play around with your lingerie and try out new pieces or styles that would normally stray from your comfort zone outside of the bedroom. After all, intimate apparel is one of the safest places to experiment and find out what you or your partner like. But experimentation can sometimes leave you with a “one hit wonder” on your hand that may never see the light of day again. I have an abundance of “one hit wonders” in my closet not only from experimental buys but also from emergency purchases (who forgets to pack underwear their on their vacation??) and free giveaways at work. None of them suit my personal style and I avoid wearing them at all costs so why keep them around? And just like that I’ve reduced my overflowing collection by about 30%!

3) Take better care of my most important pieces

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Whenever I make a new purchase I always start off giving it the love and care that it deserves but as time goes on, and my collection grows, I find myself skimping on some of the most basic rules of thumb for lingerie care. Most of my white and nude pieces begin to grey before their time and I’ve unwittingly contributed to the disintegration of many a lace panty. This year I’m making a more conscious effort to store my cupped bras neatly with backs clasped and stacked horizontally to avoid crushing or creasing the cups. I’m limiting my bras and tights down to two wears before laundering (socks and undies are always just once). I’ll continue to hand wash my bras and delicates while the more basic styles will go into the washing machine and always in a mesh lingerie bag. I also recommend using cold water for everything and separating your lights from darks. Try to avoid using bleach (I learned the hard way) as it can cause discoloration and contribute to the breakdown of lace fibers. Gently rinse and pat dry all delicates before leaving them to air dry flat or in their natural shape. Hopefully this will add a little more longevity to some of my more fragile pieces and keep me from taking the lazy way out.

4) Stop the impulse buying

5 Sales Clerk Presenting Lingerie

It’s hard to control yourself when you work in a sea of gorgeous intimate apparel but I will succumb to the addiction no more! My new motto is “Ask why before you buy”. Most of my lingerie purchases are based on desire rather than need and this is what’s landed me in a virtual mass of lingerie. Far be it for me to deny myself the most basic of essentials: a supportive sports bra, comfortable panties, convertible bra or pantyhose, but the pretty, sexy, flirty fashion pieces that I love so much will have to be limited from now on. This is by far the biggest task for me to take on so I’ve decided that every time I pine for a new purchase I will attempt to channel my obsession in other ways. Such as….

5) Keep a lingerie inventory

Drawers full of sexy lingerie

Knowing and reminding yourself of what you have on hand is a great way to avoid those impulse buys. I believe that if I can keep my drawers and closets organized and then skim through them every couple of weeks to remind myself of my stock then it will help to alleviate my shopping impulses. I plan to work with what I’ve got and remind myself how much I already have. No, I don’t need that new rhinestone encrusted corset when I have 7 perfectly beautiful corsets sitting in my drawer begging to be worn. I can get my rhinestone fix with my sparkly bra from last season or my lurex tights. I hope that shopping my own closet will allow me to become more creative in the long run and to appreciate the lingerie that I already have.

6) Rid yourself of “benched” pieces

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One of my biggest lingerie hoarding problems is my over-ambitious notion that I can fix any wear, tear or irregularity in my clothes. This includes runs in my hosiery (I can just add a dab of clear nail polish to stop it in its tracks!), bra waistbands that are too loose (I’ll just re-sew the back clasps!) or even panties with too tight leg elastic (I’ll lose a few pounds!). But the truth is that these pieces end up sitting in my drawers month after month “benched” from the game. Sure it would be great if I could make good on these promises but the fact is that I, like many of us modern day women, do not have the time, resources or energy to indulge in our inner Martha Stuart and make the needed repairs in a timely manner. Rather than taking up space I vote to rid yourself of the burden altogether. When it comes to lingerie fit and quality are key and if something isn’t perfect then it just isn’t worth it.

7) Just say no

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In my line of work we are fortunate enough to enjoy some perks from time to time including free samples and giveaways. As exciting as this is it can sometimes be overwhelming as styles pile up and you find yourself accepting things that you don’t even plan on wearing. It can be hard to say no when someone is giving you something (especially when that something is complimentary) but I am going to have to start practicing my no game. Just because it’s free doesn’t mean it’s a good idea and in an effort to become less wasteful I’d prefer to save that sample for someone who really appreciates it and will get more use out of it.

8) Avoid sales, bargains and clearances

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This goes hand in hand with step #4 about impulse buying. Sales are dangerous places for shopping addicts like myself and can turn a simple browse into an all out spree. It’s a slippery slope as turning down a designer bra at 50% off is more painful than turning down the same designer bra at full retail price. However from now on I will be making a more conscious effort to avoid sales all together. Those big red letters will no longer have an effect on me as I will be impervious to their charm! Just because something is reduced in price does not make it more necessary and from here on out I plan on using sales solely for lingerie necessities.

Do you consider yourself a lingerie addict too? How do you curb your obsessions?

Kristina

Kristina

Lingerie designer and founder of WonderLust Lingerie. I specialize in fashion and trend pertaining to lingerie, sleepwear, hosiery and everything in between. I believe that the right kind of underwear can change your entire outlook for the day so finding a balance between fashion and function is key.

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8 Comments

  1. Thursday
    07/05/14 at 5:46

    I think this is a great guide to decluttering and managing your wardrobe in general. I did a massive clean out of my own wardrobe last year, and whilst I was mostly ruthless, by the time I reached my lingerie drawers (and shelves, and trunk…) I was a bit worn out and could probably have done better. I found the first step that really got the process going for me was to identify the items that just don’t work for me – they don’t fit, they are worn out, or they don’t suit my style any more. Then out those went.

    Since then, my ongoing task has been to very carefully evaluate what triggers my purchase impulse. Have an inventory of what’s in your wardrobe (mental or actual list) and asking yourself, what need does this item fit? I already have fice lacey black bras, do I need another?

    The only point I would add is – train yourself to wait. You’ve found something you like, step away or close the browser, and make yourself come back to the item later. Even just a few days will help you dull the impulse to buy and you’ll think clearer about how the item fits in to your budget/wardrobe/obsession!

    • Kristina
      07/05/14 at 10:38

      That’s a good point – I can’t tell you how many times I have held out on a purchase because of one reason or another and then later realized how unnecessary it would’ve been for me to have bought. I am not a fan of buyer’s remorse!

  2. Axell
    07/05/14 at 16:49

    This a very difficult addiction with an industry that renews itself so fast!
    Keeping an inventory has helped me a lot.
    Another thing I’ve found quite helpful in controlling my buying impulses is limiting my storage destined for lingerie. I’m a guy so I only have panties and leg wear, I limit myself to one drawer for panties and one for leg wear, this way I’m less prone to buying more until I know I have the space and this limit keeps me constantly evaluating when I don’t use something or doesn’t fit anymore so I say goodbye to those pieces and make room for new ones.
    Knowing you’re opening up space to new pieces makes the first step easier. It might defeat the purpose of spending less though >_< LOL

  3. Lala
    07/05/14 at 19:45

    Great advise! I don’t have a large lingerie collection by any means, but I do have plenty of items I am holding onto that I never wear and never will – you just made me realize why. Great time for spring cleaning! Thanks for the motivation.

  4. Robin M.
    07/05/14 at 23:00

    For those of us who have (or on the way to having) large collections:
    1) Invest in QUALITY over quantity! Quality feels amazing, whereas quantity is part of the “fast fashion” globally destructive craze that literally creates mountains of old clothes in landfills. When you put your wallet towards QUALITY, you are supporting the talent, heritage and workmanship of the product
    2) What halts my addition the most? The horrible international exchange rate against the US dollar! How can 4 of 5 of my key lingerie country currencies be at their highest of the past 2 years, all at the same time! (AU isn’t the highest, but on a sharp upswing). Annoying when petites rely on other countries for quality, sizing, fit and variety.

  5. 08/05/14 at 2:03

    Great advice :) I started off 2013 with a big lingerie purge and the resolution to invest in quality over quantity and I have to say, I spent more that year on lingerie than any previous year but it was worth it – I now have a small (by my standard, still 3 drawers full!) collection of pieces I love and that all get worn. Getting rid of old corsets and stuff if had for a year with the tags still on made investing in new pieces and a new storage system (clear, stackable boxes) more affordable too :)

  6. Mark
    08/05/14 at 18:39

    It sounds like we are practically twins when it comes to buying lingerie. I have so many pieces, I can’t even cycle through everything in an entire month! I’ve tried some of these steps but only to limited effect – don’t think I’ll ever quite kick it as an obsession!

  7. Judy
    13/05/14 at 15:29

    Well founded advice and I applaud you for bravely stating those facts. I too have admitted to myself and close friends of being a “bra-aholic” and in great need of an intervention!! For I too took an inventory of the number of pieces I have and how much I’ve spent on lingerie; especially after being properly bra fitted the latter part of 2013. Well, girlfriend here went on a shopping spree the last 3 months of the year only to discover I spent $2200 worth in bras ALONE. Though despite the expense, all of my purchases were of QUALITY (i.e. Panache, Prima Donna, Empreinte, etc) and were WELL FITTED pieces for my (now known) 35.25 inch band and GG bust size. I agree with you, doing an inventory of your lingerie is very important, for it does help with avoiding the ‘impulse buying’ along with being honest with yourself when asking the “Do I WANT it or do I NEED it” and “Can I afford it?” questions. I will also add, while cleaning out my ill fitting bras and one-hit wonder lingerie, if there are any items I’ve worn less than 5 times, I place them to the side to give them away (along with any other clothing) to charitable organizations and women shelters – for every female deserves a great bra and a little something- something to boost their confidence as well as their sexy-side.

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