Real Talk and a Rant
There are people who think I should only post photos of small-busted women. There are people who think I should only post photos of full-busted women. There are people who think I should only post photos of women with tattoos or plus sized women or older women or women who aren’t photoshopped, and so forth and so on.
I don’t know what’s been going on lately, but I’ve been getting a ton of angry messages from people who think I have some kind of personal grudge against them because my blog isn’t just about the women they think should be represented all time (usually couched in language similar to “women who look like me” — whatever that happens to be).
First of all, as a muscular, scarred-up, size 10, afro’d, black woman who never sees anyone that looks like her in any mainstream media anywhere (unless it’s a photo of myself that I posted myself), I understand that kind of frustration. Truly. Underrepresentation is unfair.
But before you send me an angry message complaining that I never post about anything for full busted women or I never post about anything for plus size women or I never post about for small busted women, please take a few minutes to search the platform you’re on. Because while I fully acknowledge that making TLA’s blog and social media more diverse is an on-going project (and one I am fully committed to), there is a huge difference between me never posting a certain a thing and me just not posting it on the day you happened to stop by.
In other words, not everything I post is going to be 100% relevant to you all of the time. That’s an unreasonable expectation.
I am not a body size blogger. Full busts, small busts, petite sizes, plus sizes… none of those are the sum total of what TLA is about. I’m a lingerie blogger. And that means I post photos of the lingerie that inspires me, which just so happens to include a LOT of different things at a lot of different sizes. Some of it might work for you. Some of it might not. And that’s okay. Because there is somebody out there it applies to.
And now you know. We’ll be back to our regularly scheduled programming tomorrow.