When I asked readers on The Lingerie Addict Facebook page what kinds of articles they wanted to see more of this year, several shouted “A blog post on lingerie from a guy’s perspective!” So today’s guest post comes from Tony at Sassy Angel Sexy Lingerie. A little bit off the cuff, a little bit stream of consciousness, Tony shares what sells most from his lingerie store and what he likes best when he’s doing the buying himself.
Ask any guy to think back to his teenage years and he will fondly recall the first time he saw a girl in her bra and panties. It was the ultimate crowning achievement of adolescence– to be able to see wearing next to nothing at all, with high hopes of what (might) come next. As guys get older, things really donʼt change that much. We may be a little bit more smooth in our game, and a little less nervous when the clothes start to come off….but in the end we still love to the tease of seeing a girl wearing her bra and panties.
So what turns a guy on when it comes to sexy lingerie?
As the owner of a lingerie store, I can tell you that guys tend to buy a lot of stockings and thigh highs for their women. Babydolls and 2 or 3 piece lingerie sets also tend to be very good sellers. In addition, the burlesque look has made a strong strong comeback, and bustiers and corsets have become much more popular over the past few years. Some guys go even as far as buying costumes to have their women dress up as police officers (complete with handcuffs), nurses (stethoscope included) and even the occasional cow-girl (with rope “lasso”). Lastly, favorite colors tend to be red, black, pink, white, and blue…in that particular order.
Now that you know what guys like to see, here are a few things many guys donʼt care for or understand:
Cost–
The average guy cannot tell the difference between a $100 pair of sexy panties from Victoriaʼs Secret (or better) and a $5.00 pair of sexy panties from any given manufacturer. Most of the major lingerie manufacturers create fairly durable products (in the sense that they wonʼt fall apart in the washing machine after a few washes), but some lingerie items, no matter what the cost, are extremely delicate and probably best worn once and then thrown away.
Pantyhose–
Unless you are a pantyhose aficiando….be careful when choosing pantyhose. For many men, their first experience with pantyhose happens when they see their their mother in hers. Avoid boring pantyhose (a.k.a. “what mom used to wear”), unless itʼs part of a sexy outfit. Fishnets are always sexy no matter what style they come in.
Granny Panties–
Boy shorts = ok. Granny panties = not ok. Why? Granny panties cover up the beautiful curves of a womanʼs body.
In my profession, I’ve met women who refuse to wear lingerie of any kind, thinking itʼs for “sluts and whores” (their words, not mine), and I couldnʼt disagree more. Lingerie is a beautiful thing. It allows a woman to tease her partner and show off her body. It doesn’t matter if she has what society calls a “good body”, her man still wants to see it. Lingerie can both help a woman feel sexy and add a little extra spark to a relationship.
I would like to leave you with one final thought:
When it comes to wearing lingerie for your man, you really cannot go wrong. I promise you, when a woman teases her man with some sexy lingerie, we arenʼt focused on the quality of the material, or thinking about the color/style combination. Our minds are firmly planted elsewhere…..with high hopes of whatʼs to come.
What do you think, dear readers? Is Tony on point with what men find sexy in the bedroom? What do you like to wear with your partner? Tell us your thoughts in the comments.
(Photo Credit: Sassy Angel)
My current partner (male) has this personal perspective. If it looks like its made for sex he doesn’t like it, but if it looks sexy and makes me feel sexy that’s ok. I’m still not sure how to tell the two apart, but at least he is vocal about it.
I think there’s a fine line between “made for sex” and “looks sexy”. I know when my girlfriend wears outfits that are too “over the top”, it’s kind of weird. I think it has to do with the classy-ness of the particular lingerie item. If the item looks and feels classy, then no matter how it’s designed….it’s great. But if it has a cheap look and feel to it, then I’d rather not see my girlfriend wear it.
My Uncle is the same way. I showed him a few pieces on our site and he said that it looks more like something you would wear to a club, than in the bedroom.
When a woman wears lingerie for me it tells me that she’s into me, she wants my attention, and is very likely to get it. I know she is secured, playful, creative, and am delighted to go along. Defining her as a “slut” is one of the last things coming to mind if ever.
And make no mistakes- I truly wish men could have a similar leverage on women, something we put on or do that instantly get our women’s juices flowing and sends a clear message in a positive way!!!
I would argue though as to some of the clothing choices mentioned here. It may be just my personal taste, but I still find a nice silk or satin gown with a matching robe to be extremely beautiful and sexy. I just love the look and the feel and would apply the same to a beautiful, sophisticated -and probably pricy, but worth it- set of bra and knickers.
Cheap lingerie is often poorly made and itchy to the touch, not to mention to the person who has it on. Nurse, policewoman, and other “professionals” are welcome on occasion, and if initiated by the woman than it only enhances the second sentence in my first paragraph.
My husband likes red and black and prefers boy cut panties as well as sheer panties. He likes the “peek-a-boo” factor. He isn’t into the overtly sexy stuff either. And LOVES me in my burlesque dance costumes.
I’ve come across different opinions from guys regarding lingerie but what I’ve experienced is the most comfortable and sexy you feel the sexier he will find you. So it doesnt matter if your bras are 50€ or 500€: the most important thing is your attitude towards yourself ;) my 2 cents for today hehe
i think that a lot of male attitudes (including mine) about lingerie are also related to the decade when they became sexually aware of girls/women. i think that like jewelry, lingerie can be a way that a woman adorns herself. The item itself it not the object of desire, but, what it accentuates on the woman. Therefore, i like lingerie that “frames” curves in a nice way. Thongs and G-strings don’t accentuate the derriere – many times adequate or complete coverage is wonderful (yes – even granny panties). It combines modesty and the blatant identification of those naughty things that only that special person is allowed to see – both the lingerie and what it is hiding.
i also like when the item(s) are so comfortable that she can wear only lingerie and is able to move about without even being self-conscious. The situation presents another way to admire her body and present touchable curves in a very warm, comforting, and, laid-back environment that allows the real her to come out (and play if she so desires). i also enjoy how the non-formfitting items (slips, babydolls, etc.) move around on her body, sometimes to the point that i am envious as to how the material is caressing her body in a way that i want to caress her.
Very well put subbie (yes I’m a man too).
On the other hand, I can’t agree with the original poster on many points:
-Fishnets can be sexy, or they can make you look like a prostitute (which believe it or not, isn’t sexy). Depends what you dress them with, be careful!
-Quality of the material does matter. Nothing beats the look or feel of a pure silk slip. Possibly a lot of men aren’t educated in this. That’s your job Tony!
-Beautiful curves can and should be covered up and revealed in silhouette through the fabric. This is the allure of lingerie. If you just want to reveal everything straight away, then forget about thongs or crotchless knickers (blech!), just get naked. That said a thong can be sexy when worn teasingly with day clothes.
Great topic. Men do notice when women take the time and effort to wear lingerie. We also notice when your undies are rag tag and need to be burned.
Nylons seem to be making a comeback. Joy, joy. While todays tights and pantyhose have very pretty patterns and variations, nothing beats a pair of fully fashioned stockings, for WOW factor. I will even go so far as to say fully fashioned stockings worn with a pair of mules is the equivalent of Krypnonite. While some might be mortified to wear open toed shoes with mules, why hide that beautifully detailed foot in a closed shoe? And you underrate the effect of that seam going up your legs.
Men love seeing their girl in a matching garter belt bra and pantie set. Take the time to wear the right stocking with your set. Look at all the choices of stockings: Fully Fashioned, RHT, Ultra Sheer, Patterened, Fishnet, Silk, Stockings with Lycra and without, Opaques and many more.
A well fitted corset can complete any woman’s Betty Page homage. There are so many beautiful styles and materials available.
Sadly ladies there are some men out there who couldn’t care less what you are wearing. To them nude is just like wearing lingerie. If you have one of these unappreciative men, my words won’t do much good. Communication is the key. Nothing wrong with asking what your partner likes, or taking your man lingerie shopping with you. God how I hate shopping, but when my girl says let’s go to the mall, I know she’ll take me into Victoria’s Secret. All of a sudden SHOPPING ROCKS.
TK
It’s a 2 way street. He has to like what he sees (or senses); she has to feel good in, and enjoy displaying to him, what she wears. As such, a girl’s choice of lingerie needs to match both criteria.
The situation also has its impact. What works in the bedroom differs from what works at a party or at work.
Ultimately however, as someone else said, a girl needs to feel comfortable and express confidence in herself for any clothing she wears to be effective.
For us guys it’s really really sad, if she doesn’t feel good being seen (even by the man who loves her) in any lingerie.