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What is Sexy? Lingerie from a Guyʼs Perspective

When I asked readers on The Lingerie Addict Facebook page what kinds of articles they wanted to see more of this year, several shouted “A blog post on lingerie from a guy’s perspective!” So today’s guest post comes from Tony at Sassy Angel Sexy Lingerie. A little bit off the cuff, a little bit stream of consciousness, Tony shares what sells most from his lingerie store and what he likes best when he’s doing the buying himself.

Ask any guy to think back to his teenage years and he will fondly recall the first time he saw a girl in her bra and panties. It was the ultimate crowning achievement of adolescence — to be able to see wearing next to nothing at all, with high hopes of what (might) come next. As guys get older, things really donʼt change that much. We may be a little bit more smooth in our game, and a little less nervous when the clothes start to come off… but in the end we still love the tease of seeing a girl wearing her bra and panties.

So what turns a guy on when it comes to sexy lingerie?

As the owner of a lingerie store, I can tell you that guys tend to buy a lot of stockings and thigh highs for their women. Babydolls and two- or three-piece lingerie sets also tend to be very good sellers. In addition, the burlesque look has made a strong strong comeback, and bustiers and corsets have become much more popular over the past few years. Some guys go even as far as buying costumes to have their women dress up as police officers (complete with handcuffs), nurses (stethoscope included), and even the occasional cow-girl (with rope “lasso”). Lastly, favorite colors tend to be red, black, pink, white, and blue… in that particular order.

Now that you know what guys like to see, here are a few things many guys donʼt care for or understand:

The average guy cannot tell the difference between a $100 pair of sexy panties from Victoriaʼs Secret (or better) and a $5.00 pair of sexy panties from any given manufacturer. Most of the major lingerie manufacturers create fairly durable products (in the sense that they wonʼt fall apart in the washing machine after a few washes), but some lingerie items, no matter what the cost, are extremely delicate and probably best worn once and then thrown away.

Unless you are a pantyhose aficiando…. be careful when choosing pantyhose. For many men, their first experience with pantyhose happens when they see their their mother in hers. Avoid boring pantyhose (aka “what mom used to wear”), unless itʼs part of a sexy outfit. Fishnets are always sexy no matter what style they come in.

Granny Panties–
Boy shorts = okay. Granny panties = not okay. Why? Granny panties cover up the beautiful curves of a womanʼs body.

In my profession, I’ve met women who refuse to wear lingerie of any kind, thinking itʼs for “sluts and whores” (their words, not mine), and I couldnʼt disagree more. Lingerie is a beautiful thing. It allows a woman to tease her partner and show off her body. It doesn’t matter if she has what society calls a “good body,” her man still wants to see it. Lingerie can both help a woman feel sexy and add a little extra spark to a relationship.

I would like to leave you with one final thought:
When it comes to wearing lingerie for your man, you really cannot go wrong. I promise you, when a woman teases her man with some sexy lingerie, we arenʼt focused on the quality of the material, or thinking about the color/style combination. Our minds are firmly planted elsewhere… with high hopes of whatʼs to come.

What do you think, dear readers? Is Tony on point with what men find sexy in the bedroom? What do you like to wear with your partner? Tell us your thoughts in the comments.

(Photo Credit: Sassy Angel)

Cora Harrington

Founder and Editor in Chief of The Lingerie Addict. I started TLA in a small studio apartment in 2008. Since then, it's become the leading lingerie blog in the world, and has been featured on the websites for Forbes, CNN, Time, Today, and Fox News. I believe lingerie is fashion too, and that every who wants it deserves gorgeous lingerie.