If you’re one of the awesome people keeping up with my Facebook or Twitter, you already know this news. Every blogger’s nightmare just came true for me last week…my laptop stopped working. No warning, no preface, just bang! And now my screen doesn’t light up anymore.
I’m trying to look on the bright side…the actual computer is still okay, and parts like screens are replaceable, but still…with BlogHer and CurveNY literally right around the corner, this couldn’t have come at a worse time. The whole thing has me pretty bummed out.
My laptop is in the shop as I write this (The Boyfriend is letting me type on his computer), and I’m optimistic for some good news, but at this point I just don’t know. I may be shopping for a brand new laptop later on this week.
The point (and how it affects you) is that I’ll be a little less active than usual for the next few days. There won’t be many new blog posts, Twitter replies, or Facebook status updates until I can get up and running again. And that’s honestly what sucks most of all…missing out on my conversations with you.
Any news (lingerie related or otherwise) will probably appear on my Facebook or Twitter before it gets on the blog, so go ahead and follow me if you’re not already. Several people are posting photos and starting discussions on the Facebook page, so feel free to join in on the activity (or create some of your own!) over there too.
In the meantime, I’m working hard on getting all this resolved, and I’ll be back as soon as possible. Promise. :)
Got something to say about lingerie? Then come write for The Lingerie Addict!
I’m getting ready to visit my family and friends back home in Atlanta, GA for a few days, and there’s a very good chance I won’t have access to the internet during that time. It’d be a shame for my blog to collect dust while I’m away, so I’d love to put up a few guest posts from my fellow lingerie-addicts.
Please submit your guest post ideas to my (brand new and shiny!) e-mail address email@example.com. Don’t worry about sending the entire article just yet, but I will need a title and a short outline about what you’d like to write on.
If your article is selected for a guest publishing spot, you’d have until March 2nd to get it back to me. Your post would appear on the blog between March 4th and March 9th.
As with anything, there are a couple of caveats. Please feel free to e-mail me if you have any questions:
1) Your article needs to be an original piece of writing. Please do not submit articles copied directly from your blog. Google hates duplicate content, and you wouldn’t be doing either of us any favors. 2) Your article should be lingerie-related, but please feel free to write about any aspect of lingerie you like. The best part of guest posting is being exposed to different perspectives! 3) Your article has to be PG-13. The same guidelines that apply to my posts apply to yours also–no nudity, explicit sexuality, or profanity. 4) If your article is accepted, please make sure you include a backlink to your blog when it’s published. After all, what’s the point of guest posting if no one knows you did it? ;-)
It’s getting late here so I’m off to bed, but I can’t wait to read your submissions and I very much look forward to publishing you on The Lingerie Addict!
P.S. I’ve been getting a lot of questions about all the changes–past, present, and future–that have been happening on the blog. You can expect a detailed post explaining what I’ve been up to and the rationale behind it all this weekend. I definitely want you all to be in the loop!
As a lifelong fan of corsets, I’m super excited about today’s guest post. We all know corsets are sexy and glamorous, but they can also be a little intimidating. And while it’s easier if you have a friend around to help you into one, that may not always be an option. Fortunately Maggie, author of the informational site Swimwear & Lingerie and the blog Swimwear & Lingerie has some great advice for us…complete with useful charts and illustrations.
My name is Maggie, and I am very excited to be posting about corsets and a do-it-yourself attitude on the Lingerie Addict. One of my favorite aspects of lingerie is the element of surprise. My day is instantly brightened by the sheer excitement of wearing something that is a little out of the ordinary. The luxurious feel of the fabric and the boost to my posture never fails to put a little extra strut in my movements. However, it is the anticipation of the big reveal later on that really delights.
But the big reveal moment is far less exciting when you need help putting on the lingerie in the first place. Let’s face it, there are some less than glamorous aspects to getting into something tight and lacy that can kill the mood. For example, I have yet to figure out how to put on stockings and adjust them in a sultry way; frankly I resemble a line worker in a sausage factory.
So, when I purchased my first corset, I was baffled as to how I was going to get the darn thing on and properly fit without having someone around to lace me up. I was interested in simply wearing a corset for fun and frolics and not a serious tight-lacing, waist trainer, so my needs were not quite as stringent as theirs. After struggling quite a bit and actually having to ice my back after pinching my skin, I have come up with a foolproof technique that ensures a nice tight lacing and a comfy fit.
Step 1: Check that your Corset is laced properly. Often they are laced at the store by people who don’t understand the intricacies of corsetry. For example, there should be X’s on both the inside and outside of the corset, the X’s should not go between the fabrics when tightly laced. This is how pinches can happen my friends, plus it hampers the tightening of the corset and prevents a pleasingly flat closure.
You will want to count your eyelets and note where the middle of the corset is, relative to where your natural waist line falls. When threading and lacing your corset you will stop at the mid-point and create an extra long loop of slack on each side. Continue lacing as before, ensuring that the loops remain at the middle. When you reach the bottom of the corset pull the laces through to the outside and tie a knot in each at the very end of the lace.
Step 2: Before putting on the corset ensure that the back lacing isn’t so tight that you can’t do it up at the front and isn’t so loose that it will fall off or have more than a 2-3 inch gap between the back panels.
Step 3: Starting at the top and arranging your breasts as you go, do up the hook and eye closures completely. Now revisit grade seven and see if you really can touch your elbows behind your back (I fell for this gag sadly), seriously, stretch out a bit because you need to be able to tie your laces behind your back. You will be able to tell right away if the corset is too tight or loose in spots during this procedure. If this is the case, take off the corset and adjust the lacing in those trouble spots. Seems tedious, I know, but it is all worth it!
Step 4: Once you have achieved a mostly good fit, it is time to reach around and pull on the rabbit ears you created in the middle. This will cinch up the back and can be fastened with a good old knot and a bow. Voila you have successfully laced yourself into a corset. See? You really did learn everything you ever needed to know kindergarten.
But wait. You’re not done yet, try bending and moving around. You want to be comfortable in your lingerie and a full range of movement is necessary for that, as is breathing. If you feel overly impeded in a direction, consider loosening your stays and giving yourself a little extra wiggle room. After all, you are wearing the corset, don’t let it wear you! Now when you take off the corset, just loosen the bunny-knot a bit and then undo the hook and eye front closures. That way your corset is laced to your specifications and ready to go for the next time. Don’t you feel proud? You did it all by yourself!
Now get to the boudoir and try it out. With all this summer heat, you should be wearing your underwear as outerwear and celebrating your curves.
If you’re a cosmetics fiend, you probably already recognize the artist I’m featuring today. Famous for her drawings of vixens, vamps, and other very sexy ladies for the cosmetic line Buxom, Neryl gives me a whole new reason to visit Sephora…and it ain’t for the makeup. How do you feel about her delectable illustrations?
Yesterday I talked about how ASOS can sometimes be a great place to score designer looks for less. Well it turns out they’re also in the middle of one of their big semi-annual sales and there is a ton of lingerie up for grabs. Not only are the sale prices marked down to around 40% to 70% off for a lot of items, you can also get an extra 10% off everything on sale if you use the code ASOSTreats. If nothing else, it’s worth taking a peek. Here are some of my favorite pieces. As always, I’d love to hear what you like in the comments!
P.S. Sizes are limited and selling out quickly. So if you see something you like…better hurry and snap it up!
Wolford is probably one of my favorite brands to write “Look for Less” features about. Their hosiery has a worldwide reputation for excellence, and rightly so. Not only are their patterns innovative, Wolford simply feels wonderful on your legs. I’m trying to think of a way to describe the sensation, and the best I can come up with is that it’s like someone gently stroking your legs all day long. Seriously.
That said, as much as I love Wolford, they’re more than a little pricey and unless one of the seasonal designs simply drives me mad with longing, I usually get my nylon fix elsewhere. Like ASOS, for example.
A few seasons ago, Wolford featured a gorgeous, faux knee-high sock design in the Zora tights. I didn’t pick up a pair, but I do remember thinking about how nice they’d look with a corduroy mini over the winter. Well, now we all have our chance. ASOS just came out with a near identical design their calling the “lace up detail” tights. I’ve looked at their photo and Wolford’s photo pretty closely, but I’m not seeing much difference.
What do you think of the tights? Must-have or meh? Share your thoughts with me in the comments!
Marlen James is a boudoir and portrait photographer from Toronto. She indulges her addiction of lingerie and shoes by taking pictures of them. Wait…that sounded better in my head. Talking in the third person is fun. She is a pro at making people feel comfortable, is a decent make up artist but an awesome photoshoper and photographer.
First off, boudoir photography has changed a lot since the cheesy studio days. You know, those days when there was a muck-colored background and a fake column to lean on and someone standing there in their undies. If that doesn’t make you cringe you must not have seen images and you are one of the lucky few.
Oh and the boa. Do not forget about the boa.
Now boudoir photography has turned into a fashion statement. We are surrounded by sexy images everywhere. Maxim, Cosmo, Miss America (that was some puffy hair) and others really put “it” out there. Women have become more comfortable with their sexuality, and they are owning it.
The thing is…boudoir photography is not about nakedness at all. It’s about sexy tousled hair, bedroom eyes, a just-kissed mouth, and lingerie that you only wear on special occasions. It’s about taking pictures because that’s on your bucket list…or simply because you feel good in your own skin.
With that in mind, here’s a little bit about what to expect–
The experience is totally nerve racking. I kid you not…it is one of the scariest things to do ever. I’m talking “underwear in front of the classroom” nightmares. But it is also one of the silliest things you can ever do. I mean here you are in your fancy lingerie pouting your lips. Try to keep a straight face for more than a second and not giggle. It’s hard!
It will take some time to warm up and relax. The first shots are always awkward. The photographer will guide you and look for a way to highlight your assets. It is in their best interest to make you look gorgeous. Take advantage if they offer a make up artist. Most studios have one on hand. Fake eyelashes will take that sultry look to the next level.
The job of the boudoir photographer is to help you feel comfortable, silly and unguarded. Only then can the sexy bubble out.
The most important thing is to get a sense of their personality. Read their blog, their whole site, check out their facebook and twitter. Ask yourself, “Would I be friends with this person?” That is where comfort comes in. Work wise, does she/he have a studio? Would you prefer a location?
Lastly, look for a photographer that specializes in boudoir. After all, would you want a pet photographer to capture you in your underwear? In addition, there are several types of boudoir. They range form the artistic nude, to 50′s style pin up, to the most natural “getting ready” boudoir. Make sure the photographer has worked with the style you want.
Bring 2 or 3 items of lingerie with you. When in doubt the photographer will help you choose. Think about bringing a dress or skirt and shirt combo you can undress from (for example: a little black dress or a pencil skirt and white button shirt for a more sexy librarian look). If you are busy undressing you feel less conscious on how to pose because you are doing it naturally.
In the colors area it is best to stay close to the neutrals – black, white, beige, red and hot pink. They flatter most skin tones. Stay away from blue. On light skinned people it gives a “smurf” tinge, and it makes darker skin look grayer…but baby blue looks great on blonds. Also make sure your lingerie fits you. There is sexy spillage and then there is bulge. Stay on the comfort side.
Items to bring include corsets, baby dolls, boy shorts, lacy underwear, tight highs and garters, a camisole, button shirt (yours or your man’s),and, if you have a sports fan, bring the jersey…just wear your sexiest pair of nickers underneath. As far as shoes…the newer the better, sometimes the soles are in the picture.
So…go shopping for an outfit. Get the manicure and pedicure. Treat yourself to some lingerie, shoes and a boudoir photo session. It is worth it!
Petra Bellejambes is a cat with 9 lives, 2 wardrobes and countless opinions about beauty, style and the life of the Cross Dresser who can be found padding away at Voyages en Rose. Her fully padded butt is pictured in the last photo of the article.
Treacle shared a little secret with me. Meet me in the next paragraph so I can pass it on to you.
Many readers of The Lingerie Addict are men who love lingerie. In fact, some of these special readers take their love to the next level every now and then (as I do) and wear lingerie. The world is a prettier place as a result, so hooray for special people!
Here is the thing about lingerie though: Delicate, diaphanous and sometimes daring underthings are lovingly designed to feature and flatter the beautiful contours and curves of women. Curves and contours that the male-to-female Cross Dresser simply does not possess. Moreover, when we want to take off on a nice feminine voyage, we show up with a little (or perhaps, a lot) of extra luggage that really needs to be safely checked pre-boarding.
For me, and I suspect for many of you, these trips are only occasional treats. So while flying economy is mandatory, it is a nice thing to look and feel First Class. Today, I am happy to share with you a few tips and tricks you might employ to inexpensively and convincingly get an upgrade.
I take a layered approach to going out looking my best en femme, and in the effort, I help my lingerie look great too. Here then, I will introduce you to my 3C’s of Curves: Conceal, Create, and Complete.
Smartening up the midriff and camouflaging the extra bits starts with standard issue shapewear from vendors like Spanx, Donna Karan (pictured below and available at Bare Necessities) and many others. I wear both of these with great comfort and effect, and managed to find the DK on clearance at Dillard’s for a mere $9.00. Bargains for similar products can always be found at TJ Maxx, and superb entries from Flexees are well stocked at JC Penny, either online or in the shops.
If you have a chubby belly, you might benefit from choosing a high waisted version which will have the effect of driving your waistline up an inch or 2, vastly improving your silhouette and the drape of your dresses and skirts. The boy-short cut will nest well on your upper thigh and ensure that everything stays well and comfortably tucked in place.
Now with your best possible arrangement of what you were born with, you can effectively add what you were not destined to have: shape at the hips and derrière. For me, the essential garment is the 4-pad girdle. To find these specialty items, an online booty-call is encouraged. Fredericks of Hollywood goes well beyond their traditional flimsy boudoir range in this department and stocks a good assortment of well built, durable and effective shaping aids for the Cross Dresser. This is a $42.00 investment piece, and let me assure you it is a good investment. If you wear the shapewear under-layer, and if you take the care to hand launder this item (with the foam pads removed) you can expect to get 100 wears out of it. Hips and glutes for half a buck? Yes, you are worth it.
If you have not worn a padded girdle before, I can also assure you that you will gasp when you see your shape beneath a clingy dress for the first time. Right after I gasped, I wanted more. If a little padding is good, then more is better right? You might want to order the Foam Booty Panty while you are already at Fredericks (pictured below), or add the Squeem Magical Padded Panty from another recommended vendor, Classic Shapewear.
This additional layer would turn Gwyneth Paltrow into Beyonce (well not quite, but you get the idea). Highly recommended. And for you natural born women who are interested in hypnotizing your man on a special night out, I bet you have a knit dress that would feature a little oomph in the caboose really nicely. I guarantee you he will notice and make a point of holding doors open for you. If he doesn’t, it is time to find a new man.
With your foundation graded and smoothed, with the exterior built up to epic feminine proportions, a finishing layer is required. Padding can shift, and seams may be visible at this point so locking it all down for the night is key. One is never fully dressed until the legs are gleaming, so choose the correct sheers or tights for outfit, and opt for the control top version. The waist line should comfortably match or run higher than the layers beneath. The panty reinforcement should run down the thigh to cover the girdle below, but never so far down that it may peek out from beneath your skirt.
Any unnatural bumpiness will be smoothed out here, and the various layers will harmonize and sing from the same swaying songbook. I have too many favorites to name, but am happy to suggest value-priced Nice Touch from Sears, mid-range Satin Sheers from DK (Nordstrom’s and many other fine shops) and for the most luxurious feeling on two legs, the Individual 10 Control Tops from the almighty Wolford (pictured below and available at Bare Necessities) and in rather upmarket shops hopefully not too far from where you are seating right now.
Please consult size charts carefully, and make good use of your tape measure. If your dimensions are borderline on the pantyhose, go to the larger size – the hosiery will be less prone to runs. If you are borderline on the shapewear, go down to the smaller size – the fabric will expand, and rebound nicely after a good hand washing.
Get a smart broad belt cinched now, high on your waist to shorten your torso, lengthen your legs, and provide the best possible merchandizing of your new assets. Amplify the look when you pull on the sexiest shoes you can comfortably go about your pretty business in.
And lastly, don’t fight your new walk, work it. Your new shape will smarten your posture and encourage you to slowly, easily bring your lead leg around and to use your hips to full feminine effect. You should feel the movement within your dress, and notice that the hem of a well made dress or skirt is perfectly level from front to back. With your shoulders back, your belly in, and your heels propelling you gracefully forward, you will not only have the shape you want, you may have the shape that everyone around you wants.
A pair of bloomer style shorts with gorgeous lace details that I recently purchased made me think about the way frilly lingerie makes you feel. Whether you gained a few pounds or work-out consistently, most designs that make good use of little details like ruffles and bows will make you look amazingly seductive, while softening your features and giving a feel of playful glam to your curves.
Ever since I discovered frilly knickers and corsets (back in 2007 or 2008), I’ve been head over heels for ruffles splashes and snazzy little bows that make the difference between great lingerie and well, everything else. The devil is in the details. Take any casual pair of briefs or thongs and imagine them with an extra ruffle or bow adorning their trims.
Quite a different perspective, isn’t it? Parading a bit in front of your soul mate, or if you’re single, in front of the mirror, is going to change your mood for the rest of the day. As selfish as it may sound, the lingerie I wear has an important role in the way I feel for the day, so why not make the most of it?
Ruched slips make me swoon. Unfortunately, many of the brands I love are break-the-bank expensive, so I have to scoop and find just as gorgeous pieces for less. Victoria’s Secret’s cute yet sexy options are usually a good run for the money (especially now that everything’s on sale ) and, with the underwear as outerwear trend, it’s never too late to be a tad daring when you own a gorgeous looking slip.
Same goes for corsets and bustiers, where a well thought, fancy looking bow gives your daring look a unique sweetness that make hearts beat faster and heads turn.
A babydoll or teddy is a great addition to any lingerie drawer. Feminine and aerie with a hint of raunchiness, these are among my favorite lingerie pieces and an extra frill here or there turn them pretty irresistible.
On the other hand, nothing is as depressing as a pair of over adorned knickers with big bows, frills, embellishments and what not. Lingerie is always about cute and classy, never about clownish.
Let your imagination and playful sexy mood brighten up your lingerie drawer with some fun and flirty ruffled pieces or wicked bows that can’t wait to be untied. Your man will love the unexpected pop of naughtiness in the bedroom. Give frills a chance, will you?
Thanks to everyone who entered the Affinitas Intimates giveaway. I used random.org to select the winner and it chose entry #73 belonging to Daun of the eponymous blog Daun’s Family! Congratulations, Daun! I’m going to forward your e-mail along to the folks at Affinitas Intimates so you two can be in touch.
Finally, I’m thinking about reworking the way giveaways are done on the blog. If you have any suggestions, from prizes you’d like to win to how you’d like enter, I’d be really grateful if you shared them in the comments. Your opinions are very important to me. :)