Ask the Addict: Questions from My FormSpring
About a month ago, I started a FormSpring account and so far, I’ve answered 58 amazing questions. I’m taking my FormSpring down in the next day or two, but first I wanted to give my wonderful readers a chance to ask a few questions of their own. So if you’ve got any knicker conundrums or just want to know more about the lady behind the lingerie… ask away! For now, I’ve posted a few of my favorite questions below.
Q: How can you stand being so out there about your love of stockings and yummy lingerie? I mean I totally share your passion, but I’m sooooo private about it!
A: When I started blogging (in April 2008), I was very private too. There was no name or photo or any identifying information whatsoever on the blog. But then I realized that there’s no shame in what I’m talking about. LOTS of people like lingerie. LOTS of people enjoy stockings. And there isn’t a thing wrong with that. So I started opening up a bit more, and people have responded really positively.
Q: How did you come up with “Treacle” as nom de plume?
A: For people who don’t know, treacle is kind of molasses… thick, dark, and sweet. Not coincidentally, so am I. ;-)
Q: What’s your favorite guilty pleasure these days?
A: Trashy, supernatural fiction. If it involves witches, vampires, elves, werewolves, fairies, or any combination of the above… I’m all over it.
Q: So here’s a super-important question I’ve been meaning to ask you: Where do you stand on garters vis a vis panties-do you wear your garters over or under your panties? Don’t you wish there were a better word than “panties?” lol
A: Oh I have a very strong opinion about this question! Knickers always go over the garter belt. Always. I know you see the exact opposite in pretty much every lingerie advertisement ever, but since when has advertising ever had a thing to do with reality? Why? Because eventually you will have to use the restroom.
Q: What advice would you give women for dipping their feet in the lingerie world? What would you recommend first? by missneira
A: What a great question! I think the most important thing is for women to buy what makes them feel good. Because really, that’s the whole point of lingerie… it’s to make the wearer feel good. With that in mind, I think women should start by getting their measurements and finding out their bra size. A well-fitting bra is the foundation for lingerie, and it’s hard to do anything else without one. After that, I think it’s important to research what other people are saying about lingerie. Especially if you’re hard to find or hard to fit size, the internet is an invaluable resource for finding the brands, styles, and stores that work for you. Finally, I think women should only buy lingerie that makes them go “Wow!” That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be the fanciest, the prettiest, or the most expensive lingerie. But if you put it on, and you fall in love… then you know that’s the piece for you.
Q: Is there a certain pair/type of hosiery that you’ve always wanted to own and wear, but has eluded you since it was rare/discontinued/etc? Ahab’s white whale, if you will…
A: The Wolford special edition “breast cancer” stockings from a few years back. They look like sheer tights down to the knee, then have a knee-high sock effect with some corset lacing on the side ending in a little pink bow. That sounds kind of convoluted so here’s a pic (http://bit.ly/dr6KeS). I’m also lusting after the Stockingirl Gabriellas (http://bit.ly/6GH6T9). That embroidered welt is to die for! Here’s hoping I can pick them up before they become another “white whale.” ;-)
Q: You have a beautiful complexion. Me, not so much :). Do lingerie makers cater well enough in your view to women of color? by PBellejambes
A: Thank you so much for the compliment, dear Petra! In response to your question, I have to climb onto my soapbox for a moment and say that no, I don’t believe the lingerie industry really addresses women of color. It’s not just that the colors “nude” or “flesh” only refers to one very specific skintone, it’s also the fact that women of color have to search long and high and hard to find lingerie that effectively matches their complexion. I feel like there’s a lot more trial and error necessary for women of color, and far fewer options than are available to women who are not of color. (Right after I answered this, Kelly of the blogs Proficiscamur [Editor’s Note: As of January 2015, this site appears to be defunct] and The Lingerie Post actually directed me to MySkins, a new lingerie label that makes “nude” underwear in 20 different skintones. It’s my new favorite find!)